Dr. Alok 'Dr. K' Kanodia

Because something happens where we get these signals from the outside that fill up our mind with like, oh, my God, I want to do this.

I can't put this down.

I need to do more.

I need to do more.

I need to do more.

That's a text on ADHD and couples relationships, couples therapy for people with ADHD.

It's specifically a text around – it's a treatment manual for therapists who are working with –

people with adhd who have relationship issues it's like couples therapy for adhd okay that's what the text is called it's a really great book um so this is where that's the core problem right so you can overdo what you want to do but you underdo what you need to do

And this is where this is why I think that like the biggest thing here is it's not that you can't do what you need to do.

It's that the cost of it is way higher.

So I think the most underappreciated symptom of ADHD is the energy it takes to do what everybody else is doing.

It's kind of like playing a game where you're on hard difficulty and everybody else is on normal difficulty.

The game is roughly the same.

The enemies are the same.

You find the same loot leveling roughly works the same, but you take twice as much damage from all the hits and you do half as much damage to all of the enemies.

It's just this flat quantifiable difficulty buff.

Right.

But buff in the sense that the game is harder.

And so I think when you go through life, you look around and you see all these people are like doing all this stuff and it's like you can kind of, you can do it, but it just costs you so much more.

And so I think this creates all kinds of problems with expectations.