Dr. Alok 'Dr. K' Kanodia

So I think this is where the internet falls short.

which is like, and I love the way that you described this, kind of my understanding of it is like, okay, rejection, sensitivity, dysphoria is some combination of self-esteem issues because if you're a kid and you don't wait your turn, you do interrupt everybody.

People get mad at you a lot.

Um, so people, I saw the fascinating study that if you look at people between the ages of 60 and 94 and they have ADHD, right?

So we think of ADHD is like, oh, all these kids have ADHD nowadays.

But if you look at people between the ages of 60 and 94, they are 300% more likely to be divorced or never married.

that it makes it really hard to engage in relationships and that your partner, you know, has to deal with a lot.

It's really hard for you.

And so if you're sort of like not getting invited to birthday parties, if you're having difficulty like making friendships or relationships, then you can sort of develop this hypersensitivity to rejection.

And even in your own head,

Where if you have difficulty regulating what thoughts pop up, you can sort of start to spiral very easily.

So I can see the overlap.

You know, I think this person was saying the second thing is like a chronic sense of not knowing who you are, which I get excited about this.

I'm super curious about this.

Now I'm super curious about this.

Now I'm super curious about this.

Right.

Right.

So I can sort of see how that overlap is there, too.

But I think you pointed out that there's a big mechanistic difference in BPD, usually ADHD, where that really that chronic sense of emptiness and not knowing who I am and adopting identities from outside me, I think feels a lot more like BPD.