Dr. Alok 'Dr. K' Kanodia

We also now think about ADHD as a professional thing too, right?

So it's not just school.

We'll now think a little bit about, okay, at my job, I have difficulty focusing, so I need stimulant medication or something like that.

And that's sort of how we think about ADHD.

But there's some really scary research about how ADHD will affect every part of our lives, basically.

So like I mentioned earlier, people between the ages of 60 and 94 are 300% more likely to have never been married or gotten divorced.

96% of people who are in relationships with people who have ADHD say that it affects their relationship.

So it basically affects 96% of the relationships you will have.

92% of people say that they have to compensate for their partner's ADHD in some way.

Women with ADHD are way more likely to get divorced than men with ADHD, and ADHD seems to be a central factor in that.

And here's the other really crazy thing.

So if you ask what is the most important thing in a relationship, people will say faithfulness is number one.

Something like connection is number two.

And number three is actually like having a good support in terms of like organizational duties, household duties, things like that.

So like helping out around the house is like the third most important thing to people in relationships.

And these kinds of problems or these kinds of things are really hard to do if you have something like executive dysfunction.

But what I think is the biggest unseen symptom of ADHD is that you can do everything that other people do.

It's just way harder.

So as a psychiatrist, what I've come to appreciate is we talk about what can and can't be done with ADHD.

Everyone's like, oh yeah, I can't clean up my room.