Dr. Alok 'Dr. K' Kanojia
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The two arrows is not just about pain.
The Buddha said that the second arrow that's just as damaging is when something good happens to us, we feel good.
The Buddha said this is a mistake.
When you win, if you feel like I am a winner, just as bad.
When something good happens to you, attach nothing to it.
Let it slough off of you like rain.
In the world that we live in, you should be like a swan where you can swim through a bunch of stuff and never get wet.
A bunch of stuff doesn't just include the pain.
It also includes the pleasure.
The reason this is so hard for people is because we tell everyone, oh, detach from your suffering from all of the negativity in life.
What you really need is to detach from the positivity too.
And this is the beautiful thing.
This is the beautiful neuroscience of it.
When an action affects my identity, that neuronal connection is there.
If the action is good, I feel good.
If the action is bad, I feel bad.
Do you all understand how that connection is the same?
It's like if I flip this switch, if this switch gets flipped up, this is up.