Dr. Alok 'Dr. K' Kanojia

Maybe there's sadness.

Maybe there's some degree of shame or anger, but generally speaking, they're so hypercognitive.

And when someone is hypercognitive, it doesn't work.

Right.

So in order to feel the joy of life, you can't just sit there and think all the time.

You got to go out and like experience things, do things, go in and, you know, ask someone out on a date, go swimming at the beach like you have to do stuff.

The other thing about life is that life requires emotion to be interesting.

So one of the side effects of things like SSRI medication is that it numbs people out and they don't like it.

Like I've had so many patients who will, you know, they'll prefer, I'd rather have the sadness because it gives me access to the joy.

I just don't want to be like, you know, numbed out.

It happens a lot in bipolar disorder with mood destabilizers.

So key point here is that we have to have a balance of these three things.

Now, I've also worked with people who are, you know, they're in a different way where they feel too much.

So good examples of this are people with, you know, maybe something like borderline personality disorder or emotional dysregulation with ADHD.

There are a lot of people who just their life is just so full of intense feelings and their feelings are so intense that they're paralyzing.

So my anger is so profound that I can't make up with this person at work.

Therefore, I'm never going to get promoted.

Like my sadness is so profound that I can't get out of bed.

So this is where when we're feeling too much.

Or even it's not even just negative feelings.