Dr. Alok 'Dr. K' Kanojia

Is that important to you?

Is picking yourself up when you face the setback an important thing for you in life?

Would you want to acquire that skill, right?

And so now what we're doing is we're taking this setback, which is absolutely a setback, and we're sort of recognizing that, okay, this is a chance for me to level up my damage control skills.

This is a chance for me to acknowledge that even though I got dumped by this person, that I want to be someone who is capable of being dumped and still living a good life, putting myself out there, meeting someone else.

In the grand scheme of things, there is something that is more important to me than this particular thing.

So this requires some work.

Right.

For you to really sit down and think about what are your transcendental values?

What are the things that you want to become?

And for the setbacks in life, what you want to do with dereflection is think about the setback and think about how can you turn this lemon into lemonade?

Right.

How can I take this negative thing that has happened to me and turn it into something that I care about and is positive in life?

This is where the thinking comes in.

So I do this all the time.

Right.

So I failed out of college basically.

And like, you know, ended up being a Harvard trained psychiatrist.

And like, that's become an important part of my story.

Like I went through this process myself in terms of growth and it's been like, awesome.