Dr. Alok (Dr. K)

And what you find with people who test highly for life satisfaction, a sense of meaning and purpose, the satisfaction comes from the living, not the object or the end of living, not the goal of living, not the goal of action.

It comes from the action itself.

So to participate fully in life, whatever it brings, the good and the bad, that's when people get satisfied.

And that's where I think there's a lot of subtlety here.

And I'm not sure that I think this person may understand that.

They just, I'm reading into their question in a particular way.

So, you know, you can have internal desires and the desires give you a general direction.

So that's good, right?

So if I have like a desire to do something, I'm not saying that you should move away from that desire.

But the satisfaction doesn't come from point A to point B. It comes from how you live this middle portion, right?

And there are a ton of people that I've met that, you know, will work on this where they start to really focus on not even succeeding, but enjoying the thrill of the chase.

Right.

And if you really think about it, like.

How when do you have fun playing a video game?

Is it the victory at the end that is really the majority of the enjoyment?

If so, games would last 60 seconds and they would end very, very, very, very, very quickly.

If we really think about it, right, if the end is about winning, the funnest game on the planet would be, hey, me versus you, heads versus tails, let's flip a coin.

Ah, you won.

Flip a coin.

I won.