Dr. Alok Kanojia

But hopefully people will kind of understand some of those analogies.

Yeah, so it is too big of a question, and it's a great place to start. So I would say if you're struggling, like this is the first thing that I would say. I think we're way too caught up in self-control. So if we think about what self-control is, self-control is overcoming your impulse, right? The beautiful thing, like the work that I do is not about building self-control.

Yeah, so it is too big of a question, and it's a great place to start. So I would say if you're struggling, like this is the first thing that I would say. I think we're way too caught up in self-control. So if we think about what self-control is, self-control is overcoming your impulse, right? The beautiful thing, like the work that I do is not about building self-control.

Yeah, so it is too big of a question, and it's a great place to start. So I would say if you're struggling, like this is the first thing that I would say. I think we're way too caught up in self-control. So if we think about what self-control is, self-control is overcoming your impulse, right? The beautiful thing, like the work that I do is not about building self-control.

I know it's weird because I do a lot of like addiction psychiatry work. I mean, we teach people how to pump up their self-control and meditate and all that good stuff. But really, it's about changing the way that they see their life. And then self-control is no longer an issue. When your body, your brain, your mind, and your spirit are aligned in the right direction, you don't need self-control.

I know it's weird because I do a lot of like addiction psychiatry work. I mean, we teach people how to pump up their self-control and meditate and all that good stuff. But really, it's about changing the way that they see their life. And then self-control is no longer an issue. When your body, your brain, your mind, and your spirit are aligned in the right direction, you don't need self-control.

I know it's weird because I do a lot of like addiction psychiatry work. I mean, we teach people how to pump up their self-control and meditate and all that good stuff. But really, it's about changing the way that they see their life. And then self-control is no longer an issue. When your body, your brain, your mind, and your spirit are aligned in the right direction, you don't need self-control.

There is a spontaneity and an easiness of action, just like the gun analogy, right? So like when the circumstances are right and when I view the situation in the right circumstance, in the right way, then my behavior flows very naturally, right?

There is a spontaneity and an easiness of action, just like the gun analogy, right? So like when the circumstances are right and when I view the situation in the right circumstance, in the right way, then my behavior flows very naturally, right?

There is a spontaneity and an easiness of action, just like the gun analogy, right? So like when the circumstances are right and when I view the situation in the right circumstance, in the right way, then my behavior flows very naturally, right?

And if people are listening to this, I'm sure there have been times in your life where you did what you should do, you did the right thing, the right thing was hard, and it was easy for you. The hard things that we do in life are not always hard. Sometimes something happens within us, and that's really where the focus of the work is, is to sort of figure out, okay, what's going on inside you?

And if people are listening to this, I'm sure there have been times in your life where you did what you should do, you did the right thing, the right thing was hard, and it was easy for you. The hard things that we do in life are not always hard. Sometimes something happens within us, and that's really where the focus of the work is, is to sort of figure out, okay, what's going on inside you?

And if people are listening to this, I'm sure there have been times in your life where you did what you should do, you did the right thing, the right thing was hard, and it was easy for you. The hard things that we do in life are not always hard. Sometimes something happens within us, and that's really where the focus of the work is, is to sort of figure out, okay, what's going on inside you?

Why are you the way that you are? Why are your desires in this direction? And let's understand those things. Because in my experience as a psychiatrist, good diagnosis precedes good treatment. The problem is everyone is trying to change their life without really understanding what the problem is.

Why are you the way that you are? Why are your desires in this direction? And let's understand those things. Because in my experience as a psychiatrist, good diagnosis precedes good treatment. The problem is everyone is trying to change their life without really understanding what the problem is.

Why are you the way that you are? Why are your desires in this direction? And let's understand those things. Because in my experience as a psychiatrist, good diagnosis precedes good treatment. The problem is everyone is trying to change their life without really understanding what the problem is.

So here's my favorite step. And this is how I work with people, right? So the first step is don't use it in the morning. But that's not a goal to achieve, right? What I want you to do is pay attention to what happens within you when you don't use it. Right. So if I don't use it, what is my experience of going to the bathroom?

So here's my favorite step. And this is how I work with people, right? So the first step is don't use it in the morning. But that's not a goal to achieve, right? What I want you to do is pay attention to what happens within you when you don't use it. Right. So if I don't use it, what is my experience of going to the bathroom?

So here's my favorite step. And this is how I work with people, right? So the first step is don't use it in the morning. But that's not a goal to achieve, right? What I want you to do is pay attention to what happens within you when you don't use it. Right. So if I don't use it, what is my experience of going to the bathroom?

And oftentimes, like I know this is going to sound so weird, but it's like kind of subtle. But like you really don't want to go to the bathroom without your phone. Even though it doesn't cost like it's not like you get some great thing, but it's like this like you just don't want to. It kind of doesn't matter either way. Right. It's not like it's going to ruin your day.