Dr. Alok Kanojia

And that's why I like more that they go into look smacks because there's this idea that if you're beautiful, right?

And this is some really interesting theory of mind.

When they look at the people that they're attracted to,

In their mind, if someone's a 10 out of 10, I'd date them in a heartbeat.

And if I date them, someone would date me.

So I think this looks maxing thing is like a really great way of displacing all of our terrifying, overwhelming feelings of how do I get another human being to accept me?

It's way more complicated.

The good news is that I think we can actually figure it out.

Like, I don't know how many research studies are published, but I was blown away.

Did you know that half the studies on charisma are published in religious studies journals?

It's fascinating.

There's so much science out there.

Like, we know so many things.

We literally know, like, how people fall in love.

We know that one of the reasons that it's harder to fall in love is because the feeling of being in love.

You know that feeling of, like, just seeing someone and, like, you feel amazing.

And like just their presence makes you feel amazing, floods your brain with dopamine.

So as our dopamine system gets messed up by social media, it has literally become neurochemically harder to fall in love.

So now when I have patients, I tell them, go for a walk for one hour before you go on a date and stay off of any technology.

Love that.