Dr Becky Quicke

I mean, it's, it's blown my mind as a parent to see other parents who I really like and respect as even with babies and young children talking about, oh, that sort of typical, typical boys always moving is always running around and, oh yeah, she's a girl. She's sat, yeah, sat, you know, drawing. I wish my, I wish my boy would do that. And,

I mean, it's, it's blown my mind as a parent to see other parents who I really like and respect as even with babies and young children talking about, oh, that sort of typical, typical boys always moving is always running around and, oh yeah, she's a girl. She's sat, yeah, sat, you know, drawing. I wish my, I wish my boy would do that. And,

so girls from a really young age i'll just focus on on girls because that's my my personal experience and obviously professional experience um learn that that that's apparently not okay and and there are low obviously girls well just girls generally we don't have to even talk about adhd and but um very very active girls but you kind of learn that that's you're not meant to do that um

so girls from a really young age i'll just focus on on girls because that's my my personal experience and obviously professional experience um learn that that that's apparently not okay and and there are low obviously girls well just girls generally we don't have to even talk about adhd and but um very very active girls but you kind of learn that that's you're not meant to do that um

And so, yeah, definitely the kind of social conditioning of girls being good and be honest, like obedient, doing what you're told, all that kind of good girl programming has a massive impact. Yeah. And and actually, you know, so a lot of girls kind of become, you know, very, very good girls and sort of switch everything off or kind of learn how to not show their true selves.

And so, yeah, definitely the kind of social conditioning of girls being good and be honest, like obedient, doing what you're told, all that kind of good girl programming has a massive impact. Yeah. And and actually, you know, so a lot of girls kind of become, you know, very, very good girls and sort of switch everything off or kind of learn how to not show their true selves.

And also with all DHD. Moving, you know, it's just, yeah, I'm just thinking about how the education system requires children to just sit still and it's just bizarre. But yeah, so moving and being potentially told off because you're ADHD is...

And also with all DHD. Moving, you know, it's just, yeah, I'm just thinking about how the education system requires children to just sit still and it's just bizarre. But yeah, so moving and being potentially told off because you're ADHD is...

the worst thing for an autistic child who doesn't want that attention doesn't want that that you know doesn't want the the teacher pulling attention to them people looking at them like it's that combination of like oh so really really make sure you kind of develop strategies to to not um move sort of fidget slightly but like you say or kind of internally and kind of keep yourself stimulated keep your brain stimulated

the worst thing for an autistic child who doesn't want that attention doesn't want that that you know doesn't want the the teacher pulling attention to them people looking at them like it's that combination of like oh so really really make sure you kind of develop strategies to to not um move sort of fidget slightly but like you say or kind of internally and kind of keep yourself stimulated keep your brain stimulated

um it's a huge topic I feel like we could have a whole podcast just on that to be honest um yeah it's it's it's a it's a complex one because I guess it depends on the family environment and I do think that there are some intergenerational kind of patterns around not not being diagnosed so parents so hypothetically you know parents who

um it's a huge topic I feel like we could have a whole podcast just on that to be honest um yeah it's it's it's a it's a complex one because I guess it depends on the family environment and I do think that there are some intergenerational kind of patterns around not not being diagnosed so parents so hypothetically you know parents who

are neurodivergent and not diagnosed and and struggling creating an environment where potentially um they struggle to regulate their emotions and so could be shouting could be aggressive or could shut shut down the other way you could shut down and kind of withdraw and so that then impacts the the child and their relationship with their parent because that's the kind of

are neurodivergent and not diagnosed and and struggling creating an environment where potentially um they struggle to regulate their emotions and so could be shouting could be aggressive or could shut shut down the other way you could shut down and kind of withdraw and so that then impacts the the child and their relationship with their parent because that's the kind of

that we're social mammals and we learn about ourselves, about others and about the world from our caregivers. We're not born, we're born as very vulnerable beings and we learn it all through those caregivers. And so if there's an environment where there's, undiagnosed neurodivergence, that can then have an impact on the child. So they could experience trauma in that way.

that we're social mammals and we learn about ourselves, about others and about the world from our caregivers. We're not born, we're born as very vulnerable beings and we learn it all through those caregivers. And so if there's an environment where there's, undiagnosed neurodivergence, that can then have an impact on the child. So they could experience trauma in that way.

I've worked with lots of families prior to these assessment services. I've worked with a lot of families like that. And then it depends, I guess, whether the child... then learns to understand themselves or if not stays in that environment. And then, you know, we talked before about the feeling of shame and sort of doing things to not feel those feelings.

I've worked with lots of families prior to these assessment services. I've worked with a lot of families like that. And then it depends, I guess, whether the child... then learns to understand themselves or if not stays in that environment. And then, you know, we talked before about the feeling of shame and sort of doing things to not feel those feelings.

So there can be trauma in the family environment. But also we were talking before, weren't we, about social vulnerability and experiencing different, having different experiences that potentially put someone in a, where they might experience trauma. So, yeah, it's a really, really complex topic. And in assessment, it's quite important to...

So there can be trauma in the family environment. But also we were talking before, weren't we, about social vulnerability and experiencing different, having different experiences that potentially put someone in a, where they might experience trauma. So, yeah, it's a really, really complex topic. And in assessment, it's quite important to...