Dr. Bethany Marshall

She tries to move to another state, he'll just buy the house next door.

This is the kind of guy he is.

So if you think of the fact that he entered the home with the fantasy that she still belongs to him, that he's going to get that idealized life with her, that idealized marriage, that he's going to get her back, not through love, not through sending flowers, but through having power over her and intimidating her.

You're right, Nancy.

Every time he sees maybe a beautiful dress that she may have worn out on a date,

maybe baby clothes that demonstrate that she has moved on.

These are all nicks and cuts in his delusional belief system that they are going to get back together.

As I've said so many times about stalkers, Nancy, stalkers always imagine that they have a unique and special love relationship with the victim, even though there's no evidence to support that.

So he goes in the home and he sees the baby clothes.

It's like, what?

She's had a baby.

She was supposed to have a baby with me or, or he sees the perfume.

She's wearing that perfume with another man.

She wore that perfume with me.

And, and Nancy, I am sure Monique is so demoralized and so panicked at this point.

I do treat stalking victims.

And by the time they get to my office, they're often in a major depressive episode because they've been made to feel so helpless.

and as if there is just absolutely no way out.

And think about strangulation during unwanted forced sex.

You are looking the victim in the eyes and kind of playing a cat and mouse game with them.