Dr. Bill von Hippel

Because there's just too many humans on the planet. And I'm going to open up my Instagram tomorrow and find that somebody else has a better car or whatever it is that I just bought. And now mine looks kind of dumpy. Whereas that ski holiday actually becomes part of yourself.

Because there's just too many humans on the planet. And I'm going to open up my Instagram tomorrow and find that somebody else has a better car or whatever it is that I just bought. And now mine looks kind of dumpy. Whereas that ski holiday actually becomes part of yourself.

It becomes this memory that you think back on and that you're happy when you think about it, and especially if you do it with friends.

It becomes this memory that you think back on and that you're happy when you think about it, and especially if you do it with friends.

And so the advice I would give is, you know, if you're trying to, especially if you're successful and you're trying to find a way to not feel like all that success was a lot of effort and not really worth it, is to use your money in ways to enhance your experiences in life rather than to enhance your things, right?

And so the advice I would give is, you know, if you're trying to, especially if you're successful and you're trying to find a way to not feel like all that success was a lot of effort and not really worth it, is to use your money in ways to enhance your experiences in life rather than to enhance your things, right?

Okay.

Okay.

Families first. Okay. Okay. We evolved in families, not just small families, but extended families. And you may not get along with your family and then you want to find a proxy family or you want to create one of your own. So I'm not telling you you need to get along with that jerk of an uncle of yours or your hopeless parents or whatever. But I'm saying spend time with your family.

Families first. Okay. Okay. We evolved in families, not just small families, but extended families. And you may not get along with your family and then you want to find a proxy family or you want to create one of your own. So I'm not telling you you need to get along with that jerk of an uncle of yours or your hopeless parents or whatever. But I'm saying spend time with your family.

And if it's not the family you want, trade them in for a new one. But we evolved to have the close confines, regular contact, constant contact with family. And so if you can't do it in person because they're far away or, you know, the financial means, whatever, you just do it every day on the phone anyway. Find a reason to chat regularly with family. Ideally, eat with family.

And if it's not the family you want, trade them in for a new one. But we evolved to have the close confines, regular contact, constant contact with family. And so if you can't do it in person because they're far away or, you know, the financial means, whatever, you just do it every day on the phone anyway. Find a reason to chat regularly with family. Ideally, eat with family.

Eating was a key moment for ancestors. They got together around the fire. If it was a successful hunt, they're cooking up their meal together and they're eating it together. This bad habit of a lot of families to just watch TV together. And there's nothing wrong with TV, but you should also talk together because we evolved to be storytellers. We evolved to share stories with each other.

Eating was a key moment for ancestors. They got together around the fire. If it was a successful hunt, they're cooking up their meal together and they're eating it together. This bad habit of a lot of families to just watch TV together. And there's nothing wrong with TV, but you should also talk together because we evolved to be storytellers. We evolved to share stories with each other.

They're super important for us. So trust me when I say those momentary desires to do your own thing will pale in comparison to the long-term benefits of continually getting together, these rituals of eating together and having conversation together. It's hugely important.

They're super important for us. So trust me when I say those momentary desires to do your own thing will pale in comparison to the long-term benefits of continually getting together, these rituals of eating together and having conversation together. It's hugely important.

Number two? Number two is it's also going to be connection. And it sounds silly, but it's like when you're trying to plan your day and you've got this list of things you want to do and you've got a list of things that your friends are doing, you can't always do what your friends are doing.

Number two? Number two is it's also going to be connection. And it sounds silly, but it's like when you're trying to plan your day and you've got this list of things you want to do and you've got a list of things that your friends are doing, you can't always do what your friends are doing.

But if you can get yourself to sacrifice what you really preferred and do what they're doing – and they're going to eventually do the same for you, of course, too – give up some of that autonomy in order to reestablish some of that connection. And the reason I say this is when we look at married couples even, they're spending less time together.

But if you can get yourself to sacrifice what you really preferred and do what they're doing – and they're going to eventually do the same for you, of course, too – give up some of that autonomy in order to reestablish some of that connection. And the reason I say this is when we look at married couples even, they're spending less time together.