Dr. Bill von Hippel

And what role did your worries play, et cetera? And when we disentangle it, we see that the worries start to cause their own problems. The worries themselves manifest. make it harder to sleep. And so if you could find ways to short-circuit those worries, again, things like reading in bed, whatever it is to get your mind elsewhere, it's going to be beneficial.

And what role did your worries play, et cetera? And when we disentangle it, we see that the worries start to cause their own problems. The worries themselves manifest. make it harder to sleep. And so if you could find ways to short-circuit those worries, again, things like reading in bed, whatever it is to get your mind elsewhere, it's going to be beneficial.

Is there much data on coffee and the impact that that has? Coffee actually overall is not bad. You don't want to do it too late in the day. And some people can, I have friends who can drink a coffee at dinner and go right to sleep. So it's not everybody, but some people, after 2 p.m., it can be pretty disruptive for some people.

Is there much data on coffee and the impact that that has? Coffee actually overall is not bad. You don't want to do it too late in the day. And some people can, I have friends who can drink a coffee at dinner and go right to sleep. So it's not everybody, but some people, after 2 p.m., it can be pretty disruptive for some people.

And what we'd also advise is when you're eating, try to restrict that to daylight hours. That seems to make a big difference. You know, your body, you're trying to get parasympathetic dominance when you go to sleep. And if you've got food in there, your body's working hard to digest it. And that makes it difficult.

And what we'd also advise is when you're eating, try to restrict that to daylight hours. That seems to make a big difference. You know, your body, you're trying to get parasympathetic dominance when you go to sleep. And if you've got food in there, your body's working hard to digest it. And that makes it difficult.

So the last thing I would say is, that we haven't covered, is that, all right, so I'm arguing you need to increase your sociality. And I'm arguing that your socialness, you need to be more social, more connected. And I'm arguing that we're too autonomous. But that's a big ask. And I remember reading this article in the New York Times about this guy. He wrote an op-ed piece about it.

So the last thing I would say is, that we haven't covered, is that, all right, so I'm arguing you need to increase your sociality. And I'm arguing that your socialness, you need to be more social, more connected. And I'm arguing that we're too autonomous. But that's a big ask. And I remember reading this article in the New York Times about this guy. He wrote an op-ed piece about it.

He decided to reconnect with all of his old friends. And so he's calling them up and finding them, and they're getting together. And then he ends it by saying, am I going to keep this up every week? No, I just don't have time. And that's really, really an important lesson, that we lead these busy lives that are not the same as hunter-gatherers.

He decided to reconnect with all of his old friends. And so he's calling them up and finding them, and they're getting together. And then he ends it by saying, am I going to keep this up every week? No, I just don't have time. And that's really, really an important lesson, that we lead these busy lives that are not the same as hunter-gatherers.

We have so many things that we can do and are meant to be doing that we can't just introduce social connection into our life willy-nilly or we won't keep it up. We have to be Socratic and know yourself and know your weaknesses and know what you're going to sustain and what you're not. And from my perspective, that means two things. One,

We have so many things that we can do and are meant to be doing that we can't just introduce social connection into our life willy-nilly or we won't keep it up. We have to be Socratic and know yourself and know your weaknesses and know what you're going to sustain and what you're not. And from my perspective, that means two things. One,

trying to say, well, whenever I do something alone that I'm doing something I enjoy, like maybe the crossword puzzle or running or whatever your thing is, is there a way to do that with others? don't, you know, match my connection need with my autonomy need. I want to do that. That's my autonomy speaking. But are there others who want to do it or I can do it with?

trying to say, well, whenever I do something alone that I'm doing something I enjoy, like maybe the crossword puzzle or running or whatever your thing is, is there a way to do that with others? don't, you know, match my connection need with my autonomy need. I want to do that. That's my autonomy speaking. But are there others who want to do it or I can do it with?

So in my case, I'd love to do the New York Times puzzle. My sister lives in London. So we reconnect in a way that we just weren't doing before because we're both busy, but we're both doing the puzzle anyway. So why not do that? If you have to decide to do something every single time you do it, you just won't do it.

So in my case, I'd love to do the New York Times puzzle. My sister lives in London. So we reconnect in a way that we just weren't doing before because we're both busy, but we're both doing the puzzle anyway. So why not do that? If you have to decide to do something every single time you do it, you just won't do it.

You want to surrender control of that decision-making process to either your past or to the environment itself, by which I mean in the same way that we say, I'll brush my teeth after breakfast. We don't say, I wonder if I should brush my teeth today. We just know I eat breakfast, then I brush. You want to do the same thing. Oh, after breakfast, I'll call my sister and we'll do the puzzle together.

You want to surrender control of that decision-making process to either your past or to the environment itself, by which I mean in the same way that we say, I'll brush my teeth after breakfast. We don't say, I wonder if I should brush my teeth today. We just know I eat breakfast, then I brush. You want to do the same thing. Oh, after breakfast, I'll call my sister and we'll do the puzzle together.

You want to set rule so you don't have to decide to do it. And then these things become habit. And so what I want to argue is that people should reintroduce connection by trying not to do things alone, but they should do it in the easiest way possible, in the way that's most likely become habitual, and that doesn't actually add more time to their busy day. And it's surprisingly doable.

You want to set rule so you don't have to decide to do it. And then these things become habit. And so what I want to argue is that people should reintroduce connection by trying not to do things alone, but they should do it in the easiest way possible, in the way that's most likely become habitual, and that doesn't actually add more time to their busy day. And it's surprisingly doable.