Dr. Ciara Kelly

and is totally committed and wants us to be happy and blah, blah, blah.

So I'm more nuanced on the historical cheating.

And if you're tortured by that and if it's going to be really destructive, I'm not sure how helpful that is.

People often ask us, and it may be even in here, should you tell your partner about everything you ever did, not just in your own relationship, but in previous relationships and all of that?

I agree.

You know, this whole thing about... The contents of your head don't belong to somebody else.

That's really interesting, though, that some I wondered, you know, that just before we move on, would you want to know if your partner cheated?

I wonder, is that an automatic?

Yes, of course I would.

Because my experience of clinical practice was that there are so many relationships out there that exist on the don't ask, don't tell basis.

Where somebody has a suspicion,

You just know it.

They're not poking at it.

They're not picking the scab.

They just want to see if they can... Keep the status quo going.

...move on and get over it.

And so I think that's the kind of things that people say.

It's the same as when you say, are you very interested in climate change?

I'm mad for it.

I'm mad for climbing.