Dr. Ciara Kelly

about that say nothing negative about the other person's partner ever to a child because that's their parent fair fair fair another thing I was saying about you don't parent the other person's children one thing I think you can do is as well as being nice to them hopefully and as well as showing respect to them I do think you can give them things like adult advice as in you know that's okay and that's an area of parenting

But it's not the discipline end of things.

So if they're like looking to do something or they're thinking about what, you know, because these are maybe kids that are getting older into their teens or whatever.

I think it is reasonable to chat to them and say, well, I would do this or I would consider that a bit like we're chatting now because that is an act of respect.

It's listening to their issues and responding to them and showing concern and interest in them.

But without the, what time did you get in here last night?

That's the end of things.

I think I'd be leaving that to dad or mom or whoever the other person was.

You know, I think that's a... Yeah, I know you're right.

And it's continuity.

as well so that they're sure of their ground.

And I think that's important.

And the other thing, you mentioned the pressure to be perfect.

Oh, our blended family all love each other.

Bear in mind, non-blended families, biological families don't all love each other.

Don't all get on.

We've done pods on sibling rivalry.

Biological families also have grating on each other and rivalries and rows and all of that.

Allow yourselves to... It doesn't mean it's a disaster.

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