Dr. Ciara Kelly

What I'm hearing in all this, because you're talking about long-standing friendships or old friendships, is...

Ireland is small and we all went to school and I think our school friends I mean I'm still friends with my school friends too and I think those friendships persist if you're lucky and last but they have to evolve because you are not the same person you were when you were in like 3B do you know what I mean or whatever it was so

To maintain them, there has to be a bit of give and take.

You can't just try and keep yourself in the mold of what that dynamic was.

And so there will be little ruptures.

There has to be little ruptures while you grow and change and evolve into the beautiful butterfly that you are today.

I thought of myself as a wasp.

The larva and pupa-like thing you were.

The blob on the floor.

In your teeth.

I have a friend and he's very clever.

He's an actuary and he thinks like an actuary.

So he has a very unusual take on things.

And like, I remember he was one of the first people who said to me about this.

We talked last week about sexuality being a spectrum.

He entirely sees everything as logarithmic.

Do you know what I mean?

But he used to say, do you think we're friends, all of us, just because of geography?

That if we hadn't walked home the same path from school, we wouldn't have been friends.

Is it as random as that that our friendship is?