Dr. Corinne Low

He did do stuff, right?

But his expectation was still like 50-50 and that's 50-50 of like the visible tasks and then I'm doing the invisible labor and the home management and I'm the default parent, right?

But his expectation was 50-50 when I was the only one earning a paycheck.

And so then when COVID hits and suddenly we have no childcare, I'm watching for my male colleagues down to a one and

their wives are taking this hit, right?

Their wives are the one who are putting their work to the side and doing childcare because he's a professor at Wharton, obviously he needs to work.

And yet there is no assumption of that for me, right?

And I was pre-tenure and how many papers I published was gonna determine whether I could keep my job that was importantly paying all of our bills.

And yet there was no sense that like, oh, my job should be treated as sacrosanct.

And like, we should be leaning into it.

And that meant that I should be doing less of the childcare or the domestic labor.

So to me, it wasn't just that relationship that wasn't working.

It was something about these heterosexual gender roles.

And so I just was so burned out on that, that I decided to try something new when I got divorced.

And then

luckily did meet somebody who I loved and ended up having a second baby who's now six months old at the same time as I'm on book tour.

So I was out of the squeeze and then just decided to dive right back into it just in time for my dad to get diagnosed with Parkinson's.

So I am very much on the same page as

Your listeners.

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