Dr. David Burns

People do have access to computers. And if so, if you could make the app available on a computer, then maybe somebody could use their computer time and work on the app when it's their turn, especially if you can have one file for each person that's confidential that other people can't get into.

People do have access to computers. And if so, if you could make the app available on a computer, then maybe somebody could use their computer time and work on the app when it's their turn, especially if you can have one file for each person that's confidential that other people can't get into.

So let's jump over to Susanna, who asked, what's a give-get imbalance and how can you get over it? So here's a description of Susanna's problem. Susanna is a woman with a grown daughter who has severe brain damage due to a severe brain infection, viral encephalitis, when she was an infant. Susanna was constantly giving herself... giving of herself and catering to her daughter.

So let's jump over to Susanna, who asked, what's a give-get imbalance and how can you get over it? So here's a description of Susanna's problem. Susanna is a woman with a grown daughter who has severe brain damage due to a severe brain infection, viral encephalitis, when she was an infant. Susanna was constantly giving herself... giving of herself and catering to her daughter.

She explains that her daughter can be very demanding and throws tantrums to get her way and kind of controls the entire house this way, the entire home. She can only talk a little and has the vocabulary of about a two and a half year old. She can mostly express the things she wants or doesn't want on a very basic level. She mostly understands what I want from her

She explains that her daughter can be very demanding and throws tantrums to get her way and kind of controls the entire house this way, the entire home. She can only talk a little and has the vocabulary of about a two and a half year old. She can mostly express the things she wants or doesn't want on a very basic level. She mostly understands what I want from her

but mostly does not want to do what I ask her to do. She can be very stubborn and I cannot reason with her because she has her own logic. And in her eyes, only her logic is valid. Maybe all a little bit like a two and a half year old.

but mostly does not want to do what I ask her to do. She can be very stubborn and I cannot reason with her because she has her own logic. And in her eyes, only her logic is valid. Maybe all a little bit like a two and a half year old.

Susanna struggles with negative feelings, including guilt, anxiety, and depression because she is constantly giving, giving, giving, and feeling exhausted and resentful. And she tells herself, I should be a better mom. David, you asked, can you spot any distortions in her thought, I should be a better mom?

Susanna struggles with negative feelings, including guilt, anxiety, and depression because she is constantly giving, giving, giving, and feeling exhausted and resentful. And she tells herself, I should be a better mom. David, you asked, can you spot any distortions in her thought, I should be a better mom?

So we're asking the listeners to turn their devices off, write down what they think are the cognitive distortions in the thought, I should be a better mom. And then after they've written off what they believe are the distortions and why those are distortions, turn back their device and start listening again.

So we're asking the listeners to turn their devices off, write down what they think are the cognitive distortions in the thought, I should be a better mom. And then after they've written off what they believe are the distortions and why those are distortions, turn back their device and start listening again.

Well, clearly, it's a should statement. She's shoulding on herself, right? Why don't we like should statements? Because they're commands and they're ways of beating ourselves up.

Well, clearly, it's a should statement. She's shoulding on herself, right? Why don't we like should statements? Because they're commands and they're ways of beating ourselves up.

Let's go back and forth. Yeah.

Let's go back and forth. Yeah.

I see overgeneralization, that she's taking one moment in time when she's feeling frustrated and tired and not getting the result that she wants and blowing that up and saying, I'm always a bad mom.

I see overgeneralization, that she's taking one moment in time when she's feeling frustrated and tired and not getting the result that she wants and blowing that up and saying, I'm always a bad mom.

It seems kind of obvious that it's both magnification and minimization.

It seems kind of obvious that it's both magnification and minimization.