Dr. Dolly Alderton

It's so mad that like, that we've been building for so long with like, who would be this man who would have twin girls with a suicidal woman and then...

leave as soon as they were born and then that woman gets remarried and then shortly afterwards she commits suicide and then those girls are just on the wind forever and they're like raised themselves separately in New York City and you kind of think as you're going through and you learn more but piecemeal about Phoebe's life what kind of monster would this man be and then he's just pathetic he's just a weak guy who just couldn't get it together yeah and that is sadder than anything totally and that

They're often not demonic.

Sometimes they are abusive and terrible.

And when you meet those people, they're like, and sure, I'm glad that motherfucker's out of my life because he hung around and he hit my mom and now he's gone and I couldn't be fucking more pleased.

But those people who have those question marks in their life, it's not because those people are demonic.

It's because those people just didn't have it in them.

And they hate themselves so much more from that than their kids could ever hate themselves.

And the way that they meet where it's just like she's arranging the funeral for her grandmother, who is her only family in the world, which always makes me think, where was Phoebe's grandmother when she was homeless?

Yeah.

And then he comes to the funeral.

He's this little bald, balding man with like horrible cocker spaniel ears.

You know what I mean?

He's got like the hair, you know what I mean?

And the round little specks.

And he's like wearing the big coat.

He's like, yeah, I didn't know her, but I knew her daughter, Lily.

And then Phoebe freaks out.

And then as she connects them again later in the episode, it's revealed that he had no idea Lily was dead.

oh it's so tragic the way it's acted because he just looks at his into his lap for a second and he goes well what about the girls and he just thought he was living this life where he thought i'm a piece of shit i'm pathetic the best thing i could ever do for those little girls is to be out of their lives and she's probably fine with lily and lily's family and meanwhile there's been 25 years of free fall for those children it's the saddest thing i can think of it is so so painful