Dr. Drew Pinsky

But by the same token, you can't let him or her manipulate you.

Because of your fear, if you don't do certain things, give them money, give them whatever it is they want, they will die.

And so it gets dicey, which is why when family members ask me, what can I do?

I tell them, well, here's what you can do.

And if you do it, you'll be part of the solution.

And if you don't do it, you will be contributing to the demise of this person you love.

And you'll say, you said you'll do anything for.

So here's what you do.

You go to an Al-Anon program.

You go to a codependency program.

You get a sponsor.

You go to meetings regularly.

You work 12 steps yourself.

Or you get a therapist.

But actually, Al-Anon works better because you have to have somebody constantly available on phone that would be your sponsor to check in with before you interact with the addict and after you interact with the addict.

Because every instinct you have, good instinct instinct,

will go wrong, how this works.

And you have to have someone who knows this very well and knows how to end the dance.

You have to come off the dance floor, not reject the patient, not leave out of anger and frustration, just calmly and with love leave the dance floor and start having someone in your court so you don't go into the plant.

Okay.