Dr. Eliza Philby

And her father had remarried and had married a woman who had two children.

So they became his stepchildren.

And there was so much...

in her sort of expression and voice and tone that was resentful, that she knew that because essentially her relationship with her dad had become distant and his relationship with his stepchildren had become close, the money... And she wasn't being materialistic.

She was really careful to caveat that, but she was kind of like...

You know, they'll get what is essentially mine.

Yeah.

And that's, you know, one example.

I interviewed another guy who was saying, you know, the problem I have is that my first marriage, my children are now entering their 30s and wanting help with a house.

My second marriage, my kids are going through school.

So I've got like these competing priorities just in the age gap of my two families.

Yeah.

Yeah, you put that so well and I think you're right because in a capitalist economy, there is a right way of doing things and becoming a success, particularly in a capitalist economy that is driven by social media and comparison culture in which we have these images thrust into our eyes every second.

I got a message after I published the book, actually, from a man in his mid-30s.

And he said to me, thank you for writing this because I always felt that I'd let the system down.

Right.

And he said, reading your book made me realize that the system let me down.

And because he hadn't had access to the bank of mom and dad, because he hadn't, you know, succeeded in education, because he, you know, he had this sense of this very pervasive sense of being a failure in modern, you know, categorization.

And I think, you know, that is such a powerful thing to sort of compute and realize.

And it is quite defeating to say, you know, your parents will determine your future.