Dr. Eliza Philby

Such a brilliant question.

And I wanted to approach the issue with in the round.

I wanted to look at it from all different sides, which is why, yes, it's a memoir, my story, how my parents shaped my life.

But I also interviewed people sort of with very different trajectories, people who come from blended families, who had really difficult relationships with their parents, but accepted financial inheritance.

You know, I interviewed a woman from Mumbai and she was now living in London.

She was like, why are you writing a book about the bank of mum and dad?

Of course, there's the bank of mum and dad.

Of course, they support you.

Like, of course, why is this a thing?

Of course, we live in a heritocracy.

There was an expectation.

She was like, she couldn't even understand why this was an issue.

And she said, but in Indian cultures, in Indian families, that multi-generational contract is financial down the family tree.

To a point.

And then it goes up, back up the family tree in terms of care and support for the elderly.

So she was living in Mumbai.

She was living in Mumbai.

She moved to London.

She got married.

Both parents had helped buy a flat in a very nice part of London, not cheap.