Dr. Ellen Langer

But when you're engaged in an activity, you know, you're making each of those moments matter. But, you know, they should matter as much. I had this thought that I would tell people who were stressed and I would say to them, okay, so assuming that their vision is reasonable, just thread a needle. Threading the needle. And then I'd ask them how they felt. And everybody's going to feel fine.

But when you're engaged in an activity, you know, you're making each of those moments matter. But, you know, they should matter as much. I had this thought that I would tell people who were stressed and I would say to them, okay, so assuming that their vision is reasonable, just thread a needle. Threading the needle. And then I'd ask them how they felt. And everybody's going to feel fine.

because you're actively engaged and doing something. You're not engaged in what people call monkey brain or whatever, worrying about tomorrow, worrying about so on. So to go back to your three things, it's like the text on the beach is not an I love you text, because I don't see why that would distract you.

because you're actively engaged and doing something. You're not engaged in what people call monkey brain or whatever, worrying about tomorrow, worrying about so on. So to go back to your three things, it's like the text on the beach is not an I love you text, because I don't see why that would distract you.

because you're actively engaged and doing something. You're not engaged in what people call monkey brain or whatever, worrying about tomorrow, worrying about so on. So to go back to your three things, it's like the text on the beach is not an I love you text, because I don't see why that would distract you.

I can imagine being anywhere doing multiple things where I'm sharing what I'm doing, but I'm not seeing them, you know, oh, I have to do this work thing. And then the question is why see the work thing that way, and especially someone like you where you don't need any of this anymore anyway, you know. Well, yeah, that's a discussion unto itself. No, no, no, but it's important.

I can imagine being anywhere doing multiple things where I'm sharing what I'm doing, but I'm not seeing them, you know, oh, I have to do this work thing. And then the question is why see the work thing that way, and especially someone like you where you don't need any of this anymore anyway, you know. Well, yeah, that's a discussion unto itself. No, no, no, but it's important.

I can imagine being anywhere doing multiple things where I'm sharing what I'm doing, but I'm not seeing them, you know, oh, I have to do this work thing. And then the question is why see the work thing that way, and especially someone like you where you don't need any of this anymore anyway, you know. Well, yeah, that's a discussion unto itself. No, no, no, but it's important.

And so if it's all fun, it doesn't matter. I was on this panel in Australia. Well, first, each of us gave a talk, some big shots. And then, unbeknownst to us, they brought us all out. And so we're sitting there, and I'm the last one to be asked. And the question was, what's on your bucket list? And so the first person answers what's on the next person and we get five. Now it's my turn.

And so if it's all fun, it doesn't matter. I was on this panel in Australia. Well, first, each of us gave a talk, some big shots. And then, unbeknownst to us, they brought us all out. And so we're sitting there, and I'm the last one to be asked. And the question was, what's on your bucket list? And so the first person answers what's on the next person and we get five. Now it's my turn.

And so if it's all fun, it doesn't matter. I was on this panel in Australia. Well, first, each of us gave a talk, some big shots. And then, unbeknownst to us, they brought us all out. And so we're sitting there, and I'm the last one to be asked. And the question was, what's on your bucket list? And so the first person answers what's on the next person and we get five. Now it's my turn.

So I've had some time to think about this. My first thought, I don't have a bucket list. But of course, you know that I'm going to say, well, it's good not to have a bucket list or else I'd have a bucket list. So then I'm able to say why I don't have a bucket list. If you imagine you're like a glass and the water is full or whatever, vodka in this case. That it's full, it's full.

So I've had some time to think about this. My first thought, I don't have a bucket list. But of course, you know that I'm going to say, well, it's good not to have a bucket list or else I'd have a bucket list. So then I'm able to say why I don't have a bucket list. If you imagine you're like a glass and the water is full or whatever, vodka in this case. That it's full, it's full.

So I've had some time to think about this. My first thought, I don't have a bucket list. But of course, you know that I'm going to say, well, it's good not to have a bucket list or else I'd have a bucket list. So then I'm able to say why I don't have a bucket list. If you imagine you're like a glass and the water is full or whatever, vodka in this case. That it's full, it's full.

You can't do more than that. And so if the moment is meaningful, you don't have to be writing that book, being in love, on a vacation in Paris. And so I think we have all these crazy notions. Even the idea of, I've talked about this before, work-life balance. Ooh, that's scary to me. What that says, you know, what life really means is some, you know, joy, right?

You can't do more than that. And so if the moment is meaningful, you don't have to be writing that book, being in love, on a vacation in Paris. And so I think we have all these crazy notions. Even the idea of, I've talked about this before, work-life balance. Ooh, that's scary to me. What that says, you know, what life really means is some, you know, joy, right?

You can't do more than that. And so if the moment is meaningful, you don't have to be writing that book, being in love, on a vacation in Paris. And so I think we have all these crazy notions. Even the idea of, I've talked about this before, work-life balance. Ooh, that's scary to me. What that says, you know, what life really means is some, you know, joy, right?

Other than just being, you know, doing work 24-7 or however long people work, not 24-7. What is it? Three and a half hours. Anyway, that it suggests that the work that we're doing has to be aversive. And because it's aversive, the only way to have a good life is to add this fun time. And I think that's sad.

Other than just being, you know, doing work 24-7 or however long people work, not 24-7. What is it? Three and a half hours. Anyway, that it suggests that the work that we're doing has to be aversive. And because it's aversive, the only way to have a good life is to add this fun time. And I think that's sad.

Other than just being, you know, doing work 24-7 or however long people work, not 24-7. What is it? Three and a half hours. Anyway, that it suggests that the work that we're doing has to be aversive. And because it's aversive, the only way to have a good life is to add this fun time. And I think that's sad.