Dr. Ellen Langer

And so what happens is you'll thread that and I'll ask you, were you stressed?

And of course not, because you were threading the needle.

And so if we're not thinking about the stressor, it's not going to have the same effect.

Okay, so this is one of these things that I think is really important because people conflate, put together, confidence,

and certainty.

Okay.

And you have all of these people who act like they know and are very confident and are very certain, but certainty is mindless.

If everything is changing, everything looks different from different perspectives, you can't know.

And so what you want to do, once you make this universal attribution for not, nobody knows, then I'm comfortable in my own skin with not knowing.

And so, you know, I live my life this way.

I'm very confident, not because I know, because I know nobody knows.

When you know, you can't know.

then be confident in your not knowing.

Your not knowingness, so to speak, allows everything to be new, everything to be exciting, everything to be experienced as if it's the first time.

Well, yes.

Okay.

Once you realize that outcomes, good or bad, are in your head, not in events, you don't have to worry.

Right now, when people thinking there are good things and bad, you have to kill people to get to the good things, run as fast as you can from the bad things.

But once you recognize that your well-being, your sanity, your happiness, your peace of mind,

Don't depend on anything but your eagerness to create the world you want.