Dr. Eric Bender

What are you wanting when you talk to people?

And asking them, how would people respond to that?

Are you finding they're responding well?

well or what are they thinking and what do they tell you they're thinking and then this can be something that we can look at like is this pushing people away to talk about your mental health or to talk about anything like you're talking about it what does it do in terms of your relationships so i think we need to look at each individual case and understand what's happening there

I think realize you are who you are.

You're not this person you're watching.

And even though you might identify with them, you're still who you are and you need somebody to see who you are and understand what you might need.

So if you're self-diagnosing, it's good that you're taking an interest, but then talk to your doctor and ask them, this is what I'm seeing is what I think.

Do you see this?

Is there a way to figure out if this is a diagnosis?

often people will come to me and say, I can never concentrate, I have ADHD.

I'm like, well, there's actually a lot to ADHD.

So let's talk about what you're experiencing.

Can I have your consent to talk to family members?

Do you have old report cards?

Do you have things that show there's actually a history of this?

So I think you really have to spend time with your patients, understanding what they're coming to you with.

What have they been self-diagnosing?

and they might be super excited to finally get help.

So I want to figure that out.