Dr. Eric Bender

There's individual therapy.

There are techniques.

You do things called chain analyses, for instance, like, oh, this event happened and set you off.

Tell me what was the start of that and then what was the start of that and then how that goes.

So there are very strict things you do.

Why is that so well-suited for specifically BPD?

I think that, and it's not something I'm an expert on, so I want to be clear on that.

I think that there are ways to get people to look at their behaviors that help them say,

oh, maybe I don't need to respond that way.

I think that's part of it.

I also think, to be honest, and I remember learning this too, some of the stuff is so tedious.

It's like, I don't want to do that.

I'm going to change my behavior so I don't have to go through a chain analysis next time with my provider.

But I also think with all these therapies, a lot of it comes down to the connection you have with people.

When there's a team looking after you, you're connected to people.

People are thinking about you.

People want to make sure you're okay.

And that's really what I find is the best

base foundation for psychotherapy is just being with somebody, understanding them, being curious about them.

I probably ask 500 questions in my day because I want to know about people and I want to ask.