Dr. Eric Bender

detailed with a patient.

I might say something like, they might say, I just lost my so-and-so.

And I say, I'm terribly sorry.

That sounds awful.

And then they might keep talking and I'll say something like, you know, I know from personal experience and from seeing lots of people, I'm seeing you, this must really hurt.

Like I leave it at that.

They don't need to know which family member I lost or the details.

Cause that, that becomes more about me.

But in that case, there's a way to do it so that they have something that makes them see, oh, he gets it.

And that seems appropriate.

Yes, especially grief.

I mean, everybody responds to grief differently.

If you lost a loved one, for some people, they don't even acknowledge it for six months.

Or for some people, they're angry.

Others are sad.

Others will tell me, my bad person, I don't feel sad.

So my experience has nothing to do with their experience.

I think it can go both ways.

Are you trying to do this gratuitously to get 183 million views in a month?

Or are you actually showing this because you can show people that there's grief and people grieve.