Dr. Erica Komisar

Okay. So I'm going to say right now, I don't recommend that as a professional.

Okay. So I'm going to say right now, I don't recommend that as a professional.

I'm just saying. So I can't comment on a lot of those people because I could get in a lot of trouble for commenting on a lot of those people. But I will say that amongst those people, there is controversy. Meaning, at least one of those parents, and I don't know the history of the others, was abusive. And so you could say that narcissism is abusive to children.

I'm just saying. So I can't comment on a lot of those people because I could get in a lot of trouble for commenting on a lot of those people. But I will say that amongst those people, there is controversy. Meaning, at least one of those parents, and I don't know the history of the others, was abusive. And so you could say that narcissism is abusive to children.

When we project our needs and desires and likes and who we are onto our children, we're not letting them authentically be themselves. The greatest gift you can give your child is to see your child as an authentic individual who is an individual and themselves and not to see them as a mini me.

When we project our needs and desires and likes and who we are onto our children, we're not letting them authentically be themselves. The greatest gift you can give your child is to see your child as an authentic individual who is an individual and themselves and not to see them as a mini me.

When you start architecting their life, there's a good chance you're going to lose that child emotionally at some point. They're either going to hate you. They may be successful in their careers. They may have terrible personal lives. They may be narcissistic parents themselves. So I don't recommend that school of thought.

When you start architecting their life, there's a good chance you're going to lose that child emotionally at some point. They're either going to hate you. They may be successful in their careers. They may have terrible personal lives. They may be narcissistic parents themselves. So I don't recommend that school of thought.

What I do recommend is if your child shows promise in something that they also seem to love and have a drive to be good at, then you can support that drive. Just make sure to keep yourself in check along the way. to make sure that they are driving it, not you.

What I do recommend is if your child shows promise in something that they also seem to love and have a drive to be good at, then you can support that drive. Just make sure to keep yourself in check along the way. to make sure that they are driving it, not you.

Yeah, okay.

Yeah, okay.

So ADHD was one of the factors that drove me to right being there because I was seeing this huge uptick in ADHD diagnosis and children being medicated so, so early. Do you know what the fight or flight reaction is?

So ADHD was one of the factors that drove me to right being there because I was seeing this huge uptick in ADHD diagnosis and children being medicated so, so early. Do you know what the fight or flight reaction is?

Yes. So, well, it's basically our evolutionary response to a predatorial threat. So if a sable-toothed tiger was chasing you, you either stood and fought, fight, or you ran for your life, flight. Right. So when our children are under stress, they go into fight or flight. So one of the first signs that a child is under stress that they cannot manage is when they become aggressive in school.

Yes. So, well, it's basically our evolutionary response to a predatorial threat. So if a sable-toothed tiger was chasing you, you either stood and fought, fight, or you ran for your life, flight. Right. So when our children are under stress, they go into fight or flight. So one of the first signs that a child is under stress that they cannot manage is when they become aggressive in school.

They hit, they bite, they throw chairs, they have trouble, you know, socially in school. daycare or preschool or even in school. Or they become distracted, which is the flight part of fight or flight. So what's happening is their nervous systems, the stress-regulating part of their brain is getting turned on.

They hit, they bite, they throw chairs, they have trouble, you know, socially in school. daycare or preschool or even in school. Or they become distracted, which is the flight part of fight or flight. So what's happening is their nervous systems, the stress-regulating part of their brain is getting turned on.

So we say that the stress-regulating part of their brain has to do with a little almond-shaped part of the brain called the amygdala. It's a very primitive part of the brain, very old part of the brain. And it regulates stress throughout our lives. It helps us to manage it.

So we say that the stress-regulating part of their brain has to do with a little almond-shaped part of the brain called the amygdala. It's a very primitive part of the brain, very old part of the brain. And it regulates stress throughout our lives. It helps us to manage it.