Dr. Erica Komisar

And also, you take their purpose away evolutionarily, and they get depressed, right? Women have many sources of self-esteem. They have work. They have children. They're relational. And for the most part, historically, men found their self-esteem from meaningful and purposeful work and also from protecting their families.

And also, you take their purpose away evolutionarily, and they get depressed, right? Women have many sources of self-esteem. They have work. They have children. They're relational. And for the most part, historically, men found their self-esteem from meaningful and purposeful work and also from protecting their families.

So what we've done is we've taken their purposeful work outside the home away. We've made their purposeful work staying home with children. And you know, we've lowered the testosterone. So if you look at it and say, we're trying to switch, it's like a social experiment. We're trying to change something that's taken thousands of years of evolution to create in just, you know, less than 100 years.

So what we've done is we've taken their purposeful work outside the home away. We've made their purposeful work staying home with children. And you know, we've lowered the testosterone. So if you look at it and say, we're trying to switch, it's like a social experiment. We're trying to change something that's taken thousands of years of evolution to create in just, you know, less than 100 years.

And it's, you know, it's problematic. Yeah. So what would I do? I would talk about it. I would have couples talk about it. I think they need to talk about the competitiveness. I think they need to talk about the envy and the jealousy and even the disappointment.

And it's, you know, it's problematic. Yeah. So what would I do? I would talk about it. I would have couples talk about it. I think they need to talk about the competitiveness. I think they need to talk about the envy and the jealousy and even the disappointment.

I mean, a woman who comes home and sees her husband caring for the children, on the one hand, she might say, oh, my husband's so sweet and lovely, and I love that he cares for my children. And on the other hand, she says to her friends, I wish he was bringing in more money and I wish he was taking care of me. So it's problematic.

I mean, a woman who comes home and sees her husband caring for the children, on the one hand, she might say, oh, my husband's so sweet and lovely, and I love that he cares for my children. And on the other hand, she says to her friends, I wish he was bringing in more money and I wish he was taking care of me. So it's problematic.

Well, it's investment in – so either you're invested in mating or you're invested in caring for your children. Yes, that's a good thing. Yes and no because you still need to have testosterone to have a relationship with your wife, a satisfying relationship. And unfortunately, that doesn't stop men from going out and cheating on their wives because a healthy man would say –

Well, it's investment in – so either you're invested in mating or you're invested in caring for your children. Yes, that's a good thing. Yes and no because you still need to have testosterone to have a relationship with your wife, a satisfying relationship. And unfortunately, that doesn't stop men from going out and cheating on their wives because a healthy man would say –

You know, well, we used to have sex twice a day, every day. And now that we have a baby, we only have sex once or twice a week because the baby's so small. And a healthy man would say that's enough. I can compartmentalize. A less healthy man might say, I'm going to go out and get it someplace else because I can't get it here. So yeah, I mean, there's nuance to all the questions you're asking.

You know, well, we used to have sex twice a day, every day. And now that we have a baby, we only have sex once or twice a week because the baby's so small. And a healthy man would say that's enough. I can compartmentalize. A less healthy man might say, I'm going to go out and get it someplace else because I can't get it here. So yeah, I mean, there's nuance to all the questions you're asking.

But what I would say is that testosterone going down a little bit when you have a baby in the bed is fine. But the kind of testosterone we're talking about going down when you stay home and nurture, we'll see. It could be problematic.

But what I would say is that testosterone going down a little bit when you have a baby in the bed is fine. But the kind of testosterone we're talking about going down when you stay home and nurture, we'll see. It could be problematic.

Well, I think it's the American Pediatric Association says no technology under the age of two for good reason. no iPhones, no iPads, right? You want to sit and watch a Mr. Rogers when your baby is two together, a rerun of Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood, that's fine, but no technology. After that, you want to really regulate that technology. Now, why is that important? Because technology is

Well, I think it's the American Pediatric Association says no technology under the age of two for good reason. no iPhones, no iPads, right? You want to sit and watch a Mr. Rogers when your baby is two together, a rerun of Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood, that's fine, but no technology. After that, you want to really regulate that technology. Now, why is that important? Because technology is

raises dopamine levels in your brain, which is why adults get addicted to it too. It's very addictive. And the problem is that with adults, when you look at technology, it does raise your dopamine, but there was some research to show that technology raises the dopamine in an adolescent's brain tenfold to that of... So in other words, it would be like if you smoked a joint, it would make you high.

raises dopamine levels in your brain, which is why adults get addicted to it too. It's very addictive. And the problem is that with adults, when you look at technology, it does raise your dopamine, but there was some research to show that technology raises the dopamine in an adolescent's brain tenfold to that of... So in other words, it would be like if you smoked a joint, it would make you high.

If an adolescent smoked the same joint, it would make them 10 times higher. It has to do with the sensitivity of the brain to dopamine and the lack of regulation. So the prefrontal cortex is the part of the brain that regulates emotions. And it's not fully developed till about 25. So all that dopamine that has to be regulated is more easily regulated in an adult than an adolescent.

If an adolescent smoked the same joint, it would make them 10 times higher. It has to do with the sensitivity of the brain to dopamine and the lack of regulation. So the prefrontal cortex is the part of the brain that regulates emotions. And it's not fully developed till about 25. So all that dopamine that has to be regulated is more easily regulated in an adult than an adolescent.