Dr. Erica Komisar

If you know that an employee has young children, accept the fact that, you know, they may need to leave early and not stay as late as other people who don't have children. Now, that's going to make the people who don't have children angry. And you know what? Tough. because that's what those children need. Life isn't fair. It's not always fair.

If you know that an employee has young children, accept the fact that, you know, they may need to leave early and not stay as late as other people who don't have children. Now, that's going to make the people who don't have children angry. And you know what? Tough. because that's what those children need. Life isn't fair. It's not always fair.

And if you want to have a child, you too could have that. But the idea of exact parity, tough, because that's what society needs. It needs healthy children. If you're going to have a child and you need to leave every day at four, so you're home for your children. So flexibility, control, options, as much time off in the

And if you want to have a child, you too could have that. But the idea of exact parity, tough, because that's what society needs. It needs healthy children. If you're going to have a child and you need to leave every day at four, so you're home for your children. So flexibility, control, options, as much time off in the

Almost all of them. Yeah.

Almost all of them. Yeah.

Because somebody has to. Because they're the inconvenient truths that are stopping us from having healthy children who grow into unhealthy adults. And so somebody has to say these things. And if you're too worried about people liking you, then you don't sometimes say what needs to be said.

Because somebody has to. Because they're the inconvenient truths that are stopping us from having healthy children who grow into unhealthy adults. And so somebody has to say these things. And if you're too worried about people liking you, then you don't sometimes say what needs to be said.

And fortunately, I don't care if people like me, but I do care that people like their children and want to be with their children. So that's why I say these things.

And fortunately, I don't care if people like me, but I do care that people like their children and want to be with their children. So that's why I say these things.

Well, then you'd have to ask me about my own personal story. My personal story, just to wrap it up quickly, is that my own mother was a very loving mother, but could dissociate. And by dissociate, she had a lot of trauma as a child, and I think she managed it by... emotionally, she was like a little girl. She's very sweet, but she was like a little girl. And so I couldn't always feel her.

Well, then you'd have to ask me about my own personal story. My personal story, just to wrap it up quickly, is that my own mother was a very loving mother, but could dissociate. And by dissociate, she had a lot of trauma as a child, and I think she managed it by... emotionally, she was like a little girl. She's very sweet, but she was like a little girl. And so I couldn't always feel her.

I couldn't, she was like sand that slipped through my fingers. So I can remember the pain, but she was, she was there physically, but I could remember the pain of the absence of her mind. And she could feel for me, which is why I have such compassion. But she couldn't think about me. So there's two things parents have to be able to do for children. They have to be able to feel for them.

I couldn't, she was like sand that slipped through my fingers. So I can remember the pain, but she was, she was there physically, but I could remember the pain of the absence of her mind. And she could feel for me, which is why I have such compassion. But she couldn't think about me. So there's two things parents have to be able to do for children. They have to be able to feel for them.

They have to feel empathy for their pain, for the distress. They cannot look away from their children's pain and distress. You cannot look away. You do not have the luxury of looking away from your children's distress. But you also have to be able to think about them and be able to think about who they are. My mother could feel for me, but she couldn't think about me because she would dissociate.

They have to feel empathy for their pain, for the distress. They cannot look away from their children's pain and distress. You cannot look away. You do not have the luxury of looking away from your children's distress. But you also have to be able to think about them and be able to think about who they are. My mother could feel for me, but she couldn't think about me because she would dissociate.

So my own personal pain is having had a loving mother who had some limitations. And so it made me want to be a better mother, but it also made me want to treat people who want to be better mothers and fathers.

So my own personal pain is having had a loving mother who had some limitations. And so it made me want to be a better mother, but it also made me want to treat people who want to be better mothers and fathers.

I struggled socially, and I struggled with my identity and personally and self-esteem, I would say. And it wasn't until I went into therapy. Oh, I tried a lot of things in my 20s. I worked in television production. I worked on Capitol Hill. I worked in many different public relations. And in the end, I found myself sitting in my therapist's office one day,

I struggled socially, and I struggled with my identity and personally and self-esteem, I would say. And it wasn't until I went into therapy. Oh, I tried a lot of things in my 20s. I worked in television production. I worked on Capitol Hill. I worked in many different public relations. And in the end, I found myself sitting in my therapist's office one day,