Dr. Erica Komisar

nurturing hormones dictate that if they are healthy and they've been raised in a healthy environment, they are different. Now, does that mean that a father can't raise a child and be a sensitive, empathic nurturer? It doesn't mean he can't take on that role. But if, as a society, we can't acknowledge the differences, then a father can't learn

nurturing hormones dictate that if they are healthy and they've been raised in a healthy environment, they are different. Now, does that mean that a father can't raise a child and be a sensitive, empathic nurturer? It doesn't mean he can't take on that role. But if, as a society, we can't acknowledge the differences, then a father can't learn

to be a sensitive empathic nurturer, meaning these are instinctual behaviors. And so that infant, if that father is going to stay home with that baby, acknowledging the differences allows that father then to become a sensitive empathic nurturer.

to be a sensitive empathic nurturer, meaning these are instinctual behaviors. And so that infant, if that father is going to stay home with that baby, acknowledging the differences allows that father then to become a sensitive empathic nurturer.

I mean, so the thing is, none of the books I write are based on opinion. So I'm very skittish about saying anything that isn't backed up with research. So it's everything that I write about and speak about is supported by research.

I mean, so the thing is, none of the books I write are based on opinion. So I'm very skittish about saying anything that isn't backed up with research. So it's everything that I write about and speak about is supported by research.

It's an inconvenient truth, to quote Al Gore. It's an inconvenient truth. Sometimes facts are an inconvenient truth, just like climate change is an inconvenient truth. This is an inconvenient truth. It inconveniences people. It also makes people feel guilty. So I don't believe that guilt is a bad feeling. I don't believe that guilt is a bad thing. Guilt is a sign that your ego is functioning.

It's an inconvenient truth, to quote Al Gore. It's an inconvenient truth. Sometimes facts are an inconvenient truth, just like climate change is an inconvenient truth. This is an inconvenient truth. It inconveniences people. It also makes people feel guilty. So I don't believe that guilt is a bad feeling. I don't believe that guilt is a bad thing. Guilt is a sign that your ego is functioning.

It's a sign that the part of you, the part of your ego called the superego, can identify something that feels right and wrong. So if you look at a baby who's crying, who's your baby, and you feel nothing, That means that there's a part of you that is dead inside. There's a part of you that is unempathic towards your own young. And we would say that that doesn't make that person a bad person.

It's a sign that the part of you, the part of your ego called the superego, can identify something that feels right and wrong. So if you look at a baby who's crying, who's your baby, and you feel nothing, That means that there's a part of you that is dead inside. There's a part of you that is unempathic towards your own young. And we would say that that doesn't make that person a bad person.

It makes that person someone who probably had some early trauma themselves, right? It means that they probably have some kind of attachment disorder where they can't be attuned to their baby's pain, right? So when you are guilty, it means you have internal conflict. It means two parts of you are struggling with each other. The part of you that wants to do whatever you want to do.

It makes that person someone who probably had some early trauma themselves, right? It means that they probably have some kind of attachment disorder where they can't be attuned to their baby's pain, right? So when you are guilty, it means you have internal conflict. It means two parts of you are struggling with each other. The part of you that wants to do whatever you want to do.

I want to go out to work. I want to make money. I want to be free. And the other part of you that says, wait a second, but my baby... My baby needs me. Look at my vulnerable baby. Look how sad. Look at the distress that my absence is causing that baby. So if we don't feel guilt, then our species is lost. We're lost. Now, excessive guilt is another thing.

I want to go out to work. I want to make money. I want to be free. And the other part of you that says, wait a second, but my baby... My baby needs me. Look at my vulnerable baby. Look how sad. Look at the distress that my absence is causing that baby. So if we don't feel guilt, then our species is lost. We're lost. Now, excessive guilt is another thing.

If you're a good enough mother or a good enough father and you still feel guilty, then we call it anxiety. But for the most part, what I say makes a lot of women and men feel guilty. And again, I don't see that as a bad thing.

If you're a good enough mother or a good enough father and you still feel guilty, then we call it anxiety. But for the most part, what I say makes a lot of women and men feel guilty. And again, I don't see that as a bad thing.

And I think when we tell parents to turn away from their guilt instead of turning toward it, when we turn towards our internal conflicts, we tend to make better decisions for ourselves, for our children, for our families. But when we turn away from those conflicts, we tend not to make good decisions. And those tend to have long-term consequences.

And I think when we tell parents to turn away from their guilt instead of turning toward it, when we turn towards our internal conflicts, we tend to make better decisions for ourselves, for our children, for our families. But when we turn away from those conflicts, we tend not to make good decisions. And those tend to have long-term consequences.

What are the ideas that you're... That you have to sacrifice time and money and freedom. That if you want to raise healthy children, it's going to require discomfort and frustration and sacrifice. And what's interesting is that what's also happened is because we're raising our children in such a selfish, self-centered environment... young people are more fragile. They are more emotionally fragile.

What are the ideas that you're... That you have to sacrifice time and money and freedom. That if you want to raise healthy children, it's going to require discomfort and frustration and sacrifice. And what's interesting is that what's also happened is because we're raising our children in such a selfish, self-centered environment... young people are more fragile. They are more emotionally fragile.