Dr. Ethan Kross

It turns the volume down on it, which for me is often all I have to do to get back to bed. So the official name for this tool is not mental time travel. It is called temporal distancing. And it's a flexible tool. You can ask yourself if you're struggling with a problem, how are you going to feel about it tomorrow, next week, 10 years from now. And it's another way of broadening your perspective.

It's another kind of distancing tool that has a lot of science behind it. So those are the two of the cognitive things that I do on my own. And And that nips a significant chunk of the chatter that I experience in the bud when it happens.

It's another kind of distancing tool that has a lot of science behind it. So those are the two of the cognitive things that I do on my own. And And that nips a significant chunk of the chatter that I experience in the bud when it happens.

It's another kind of distancing tool that has a lot of science behind it. So those are the two of the cognitive things that I do on my own. And And that nips a significant chunk of the chatter that I experience in the bud when it happens.

And I should add that because I know about what chatter is and I know about how these tools work, I am exceptionally strategic in utilizing those tools the moment I detect the chatter brewing. So people will often ask, Hey, do you ever experience chatter? Like, yeah, of course. Pinch me. I'm a living, breathing human being. I do at times.

And I should add that because I know about what chatter is and I know about how these tools work, I am exceptionally strategic in utilizing those tools the moment I detect the chatter brewing. So people will often ask, Hey, do you ever experience chatter? Like, yeah, of course. Pinch me. I'm a living, breathing human being. I do at times.

And I should add that because I know about what chatter is and I know about how these tools work, I am exceptionally strategic in utilizing those tools the moment I detect the chatter brewing. So people will often ask, Hey, do you ever experience chatter? Like, yeah, of course. Pinch me. I'm a living, breathing human being. I do at times.

But I'm really good at detecting it and then implementing tools in an almost automatic manner. If this happens, if the chatter strikes, then I'm going to coach myself through the problem using my own name and you, and I'm going to jump into the mental time travel machine and ask myself, how am I going to feel about this in the future? Yeah.

But I'm really good at detecting it and then implementing tools in an almost automatic manner. If this happens, if the chatter strikes, then I'm going to coach myself through the problem using my own name and you, and I'm going to jump into the mental time travel machine and ask myself, how am I going to feel about this in the future? Yeah.

But I'm really good at detecting it and then implementing tools in an almost automatic manner. If this happens, if the chatter strikes, then I'm going to coach myself through the problem using my own name and you, and I'm going to jump into the mental time travel machine and ask myself, how am I going to feel about this in the future? Yeah.

If that's not sufficient, then I'll go to like the level two response, which consists of if weather permits, I'll go for a walk in a safe natural setting. I always feel the need to give the caveat about safe and natural because where I grew up in Brooklyn, like the natural settings were the place you got mugged. So they were not safe.

If that's not sufficient, then I'll go to like the level two response, which consists of if weather permits, I'll go for a walk in a safe natural setting. I always feel the need to give the caveat about safe and natural because where I grew up in Brooklyn, like the natural settings were the place you got mugged. So they were not safe.

If that's not sufficient, then I'll go to like the level two response, which consists of if weather permits, I'll go for a walk in a safe natural setting. I always feel the need to give the caveat about safe and natural because where I grew up in Brooklyn, like the natural settings were the place you got mugged. So they were not safe.

But, you know, a park I find restorative, and there's a ton of work highlighting the restorative features of green spaces. But then what I'll also do is I'll dial up the chatter advisory board. So I have a couple of people that... I have carefully thought about what these people do for me when I have a problem.

But, you know, a park I find restorative, and there's a ton of work highlighting the restorative features of green spaces. But then what I'll also do is I'll dial up the chatter advisory board. So I have a couple of people that... I have carefully thought about what these people do for me when I have a problem.

But, you know, a park I find restorative, and there's a ton of work highlighting the restorative features of green spaces. But then what I'll also do is I'll dial up the chatter advisory board. So I have a couple of people that... I have carefully thought about what these people do for me when I have a problem.

And they importantly don't just let me vent my emotions or cathect, to use that term before. I don't just get it out. A lot of people think that the key to feeling better is to vent your emotions. There's research on this. Venting is good for strengthening bonds between people. It's good to know that We're buddies now. I could call you up if I'm struggling.

And they importantly don't just let me vent my emotions or cathect, to use that term before. I don't just get it out. A lot of people think that the key to feeling better is to vent your emotions. There's research on this. Venting is good for strengthening bonds between people. It's good to know that We're buddies now. I could call you up if I'm struggling.

And they importantly don't just let me vent my emotions or cathect, to use that term before. I don't just get it out. A lot of people think that the key to feeling better is to vent your emotions. There's research on this. Venting is good for strengthening bonds between people. It's good to know that We're buddies now. I could call you up if I'm struggling.

You're going to listen to me and empathize with me. That's great for our relationship. But if all you do is just validate what I'm going through and you don't take the next step to additionally help me look at that bigger picture and problem solve, I leave the conversation feeling really good about my relationship with you, but the problem is still there.