Dr. Ethan Kross

Probably maybe a couple of months ago. And it was linked with one of my daughter's.

Probably maybe a couple of months ago. And it was linked with one of my daughter's.

I'm actively monitoring it.

I'm actively monitoring it.

I'm actively monitoring it.

Yes, yes. No, this is something I'm used to experiencing. No, this is fair to say. So my youngest daughter was applying to get into the same school as my oldest daughter. And when my oldest daughter was applying to get into a school, you know, there was, okay, if it works out, great. And if not, no big deal. But now with the second daughter, there's a social comparison element here.

Yes, yes. No, this is something I'm used to experiencing. No, this is fair to say. So my youngest daughter was applying to get into the same school as my oldest daughter. And when my oldest daughter was applying to get into a school, you know, there was, okay, if it works out, great. And if not, no big deal. But now with the second daughter, there's a social comparison element here.

Yes, yes. No, this is something I'm used to experiencing. No, this is fair to say. So my youngest daughter was applying to get into the same school as my oldest daughter. And when my oldest daughter was applying to get into a school, you know, there was, okay, if it works out, great. And if not, no big deal. But now with the second daughter, there's a social comparison element here.

And, you know, she has this older sister that she looks up to and admires. And so I'm thinking, well, what would happen if she doesn't get in? And she fortunately did get in. And it was a great relief. But I did find myself going down the rabbit hole on occasion, playing the what if this happens?

And, you know, she has this older sister that she looks up to and admires. And so I'm thinking, well, what would happen if she doesn't get in? And she fortunately did get in. And it was a great relief. But I did find myself going down the rabbit hole on occasion, playing the what if this happens?

And, you know, she has this older sister that she looks up to and admires. And so I'm thinking, well, what would happen if she doesn't get in? And she fortunately did get in. And it was a great relief. But I did find myself going down the rabbit hole on occasion, playing the what if this happens?

And, you know, I should say that when I do that, when I go down the rabbit hole of despair, which I can get stuck in every now and again, like the best of us, it always amazes me. how exceptionally adept we are at brainstorming endless worst case scenarios to our problems. I mean, have you experienced this yourself?

And, you know, I should say that when I do that, when I go down the rabbit hole of despair, which I can get stuck in every now and again, like the best of us, it always amazes me. how exceptionally adept we are at brainstorming endless worst case scenarios to our problems. I mean, have you experienced this yourself?

And, you know, I should say that when I do that, when I go down the rabbit hole of despair, which I can get stuck in every now and again, like the best of us, it always amazes me. how exceptionally adept we are at brainstorming endless worst case scenarios to our problems. I mean, have you experienced this yourself?

That's right. Well, there's what we call this negativity bias. One of my favorite titles of a paper in psychology is bad is stronger than good. One of our few Nobel Prize winners won a Nobel Prize for discovering that we're more sensitive to losses than we are gains in our lives. And that all makes sense if you think about it.

That's right. Well, there's what we call this negativity bias. One of my favorite titles of a paper in psychology is bad is stronger than good. One of our few Nobel Prize winners won a Nobel Prize for discovering that we're more sensitive to losses than we are gains in our lives. And that all makes sense if you think about it.

That's right. Well, there's what we call this negativity bias. One of my favorite titles of a paper in psychology is bad is stronger than good. One of our few Nobel Prize winners won a Nobel Prize for discovering that we're more sensitive to losses than we are gains in our lives. And that all makes sense if you think about it.

The bad things in life have the potential to harm us or derail our lives a lot more than the good things. So we should be more sensitive to But sometimes that oversensitivity to the bad stuff can really lead us astray, especially because no one ever teaches us about how to rewrite the ship when we find it going in the wrong path.

The bad things in life have the potential to harm us or derail our lives a lot more than the good things. So we should be more sensitive to But sometimes that oversensitivity to the bad stuff can really lead us astray, especially because no one ever teaches us about how to rewrite the ship when we find it going in the wrong path.

The bad things in life have the potential to harm us or derail our lives a lot more than the good things. So we should be more sensitive to But sometimes that oversensitivity to the bad stuff can really lead us astray, especially because no one ever teaches us about how to rewrite the ship when we find it going in the wrong path.