Dr. Ethan Kross

Yeah. So you want to pay attention to contagion. And you can use this as a tool as well. You can affect, hopefully positively, other people by trying to come in there with the right kind of attitude that you think is conducive to the goals that you have, if it's a workplace environment or even in your home. Yeah.

Yeah. So you want to pay attention to contagion. And you can use this as a tool as well. You can affect, hopefully positively, other people by trying to come in there with the right kind of attitude that you think is conducive to the goals that you have, if it's a workplace environment or even in your home. Yeah.

Another important way that people can shift us that I think is important to point out has to do with social comparisons. So we often hear that we should not compare ourselves to other people. You've heard this before, yes? Comparison, thief of joy, yeah. Thief of joy, right? Like I'm on the record. It's in print. I've said this to my kids at times. Yeah.

Another important way that people can shift us that I think is important to point out has to do with social comparisons. So we often hear that we should not compare ourselves to other people. You've heard this before, yes? Comparison, thief of joy, yeah. Thief of joy, right? Like I'm on the record. It's in print. I've said this to my kids at times. Yeah.

Another important way that people can shift us that I think is important to point out has to do with social comparisons. So we often hear that we should not compare ourselves to other people. You've heard this before, yes? Comparison, thief of joy, yeah. Thief of joy, right? Like I'm on the record. It's in print. I've said this to my kids at times. Yeah.

And it's probably the worst advice I've ever given because social comparisons are how we work. They're part of how we make sense of our standing in the world. We reference other people to gain some insight into where we are on dimensions that don't have clear standards. If you want to understand how successful you are in life,

And it's probably the worst advice I've ever given because social comparisons are how we work. They're part of how we make sense of our standing in the world. We reference other people to gain some insight into where we are on dimensions that don't have clear standards. If you want to understand how successful you are in life,

And it's probably the worst advice I've ever given because social comparisons are how we work. They're part of how we make sense of our standing in the world. We reference other people to gain some insight into where we are on dimensions that don't have clear standards. If you want to understand how successful you are in life,

You're going to look to your surroundings and other people to draw an inference about that. And that's true of lots of different qualities that we care a great deal about. So number one, I think the challenge here is not to stop comparing yourself to other people. Because we're going to always be doing that at some level.

You're going to look to your surroundings and other people to draw an inference about that. And that's true of lots of different qualities that we care a great deal about. So number one, I think the challenge here is not to stop comparing yourself to other people. Because we're going to always be doing that at some level.

You're going to look to your surroundings and other people to draw an inference about that. And that's true of lots of different qualities that we care a great deal about. So number one, I think the challenge here is not to stop comparing yourself to other people. Because we're going to always be doing that at some level.

But it's to understand how you can benefit the most from engaging in those comparisons. And I want to share with you two shifts here that I have found to personally be game-changing. So I inevitably will come across a profile of someone in my network who is outperforming me on some dimension that I care about. And the instant trigger that is out of my control is, ugh.

But it's to understand how you can benefit the most from engaging in those comparisons. And I want to share with you two shifts here that I have found to personally be game-changing. So I inevitably will come across a profile of someone in my network who is outperforming me on some dimension that I care about. And the instant trigger that is out of my control is, ugh.

But it's to understand how you can benefit the most from engaging in those comparisons. And I want to share with you two shifts here that I have found to personally be game-changing. So I inevitably will come across a profile of someone in my network who is outperforming me on some dimension that I care about. And the instant trigger that is out of my control is, ugh.

oh my god i'm a failure you know like look at the size of their h index look at how many bucks they sold last month there you go you know all my triggers right and um and that could be my default which is an envy reaction it is not an emotion that feels great but i can reframe it and i can use that comparison to be a source of motivation wait a second They were able to do this. They're like me.

oh my god i'm a failure you know like look at the size of their h index look at how many bucks they sold last month there you go you know all my triggers right and um and that could be my default which is an envy reaction it is not an emotion that feels great but i can reframe it and i can use that comparison to be a source of motivation wait a second They were able to do this. They're like me.

oh my god i'm a failure you know like look at the size of their h index look at how many bucks they sold last month there you go you know all my triggers right and um and that could be my default which is an envy reaction it is not an emotion that feels great but i can reframe it and i can use that comparison to be a source of motivation wait a second They were able to do this. They're like me.

That means I could probably do something like that. So now I've taken a comparison that initially is a source of envy and it's associated negative feelings and I've reframed it to be a source of motivation now.

That means I could probably do something like that. So now I've taken a comparison that initially is a source of envy and it's associated negative feelings and I've reframed it to be a source of motivation now.

That means I could probably do something like that. So now I've taken a comparison that initially is a source of envy and it's associated negative feelings and I've reframed it to be a source of motivation now.