Dr. Gabor Maté
👤 SpeakerAppearances Over Time
Podcast Appearances
I just noticed I'm getting too excited here.
This is my passion.
I mean, I just could go on about this forever, but I'm also noticing probably I'm getting a bit too heated here.
You're getting warm.
I don't know physically so much.
I just noticed I need to calm down a bit.
I don't want to talk too fast.
It's not even a matter of skills learning.
It's deeper than that because you don't have to teach any one day old baby how to express their emotions.
Do you?
No.
If they're sad, lonely, do you hear about it?
If they're hungry or uncomfortable, do you hear about it?
Of course you do.
There's nothing to teach.
You have to allow it and you have to give space for it and you have to hear it and respond to it.
The problem with most parents is not that they don't teach their kids these skills, is that the way they live their lives because of their own traumas and because of the stresses in their society, they actually discourage kids.
Don't cry.
Stop crying.
Yeah, from what's natural.