Dr. J. Budziszewski

Well, one is, you remember, I was just making the point that love isn't a feeling.

It is usually accompanied by certain kinds of feelings, but the feelings come and go.

When people marry each other, they exchange vows.

And one of the vows is they vow to love each other.

And people think, oh, you can't realistically vow to love each other because your feelings change.

Yeah, but love isn't a feeling.

You can realistically, promises and commitments of the will are, well, they are about the will.

Commitments are about the will.

We can bind ourselves.

You can commit yourself to go on willing the true good of the other person no matter how you feel.

I don't feel any particular affection for you, dear, but right now you're saying to yourself, not a good idea to put it like that to her.

But I'm going to continue acting for your true good.

I still desire your true good.

I am still going to be glad that you are in the world and not

Not in the world.

I am going to rejoice in this fact.

I am going to say it is good that you are and I am going to end and I'm going to will more good to you.

You do that and the feelings are going to refresh themselves.

They're going to come back.

And the surprising thing is.