Dr. James Hollis

It was like, you're in the hands of the gods now.

And

They require you to leave home.

And we're going to teach you things, but we're also going to bring about some forms of isolation and suffering for you to begin to realize that you have within you the resources to undertake this journey.

What we have now is a whole culture of uninitiated males who haven't left home, psychologically speaking.

You know, in the past, they were simply governed by masculine roles.

And now, as those have dissolved for many men, there's very little sense of, well, what does it mean to be a man?

What am I supposed to do as a man?

And the answer basically is go live your life.

Find your path.

Find the courage and resolve and resources to sustain that over time.

But, you know, how to do that is, there's no model for that.

You have to sort of find that yourself, you see.

And that's what brings people into therapy at times.

And it's interesting that I have right now this collection, and it's consonant with my own stage of life journey too,

of, I only have one man under 50 and all of the others are interested in how you deal with aging and mortality for good reason.

And they're also dealing with how do I define myself other than my work?

And that's where the unlived life often is coming back in a very useful way, all right?

Although there are some things that have left and not coming back in terms of the changes in the body and that sort of thing.

But basically, now is the time to address this emotional, developmental, spiritual life.