Dr. Jamil Zaki

If you find yourself judging somebody you just met or mistrusting a whole group of people, ask yourself, what evidence do I have for this claim? If I had to defend this position, how would I do it? Oftentimes when I feel this, which is quite often, I realize, wait a minute, that's just kind of a vibe that I'm getting more than it's really based on any information.

If you find yourself judging somebody you just met or mistrusting a whole group of people, ask yourself, what evidence do I have for this claim? If I had to defend this position, how would I do it? Oftentimes when I feel this, which is quite often, I realize, wait a minute, that's just kind of a vibe that I'm getting more than it's really based on any information.

And so if you don't have data to support your claim, go out and collect some data. The best way to do that is to take little leaps of faith on people. I'm not saying to be reckless. I'm not saying to put everything on the line, but take little chances on people, give them an opportunity to show you who they are. And then the third thing I would say is to try out something I call positive gossip.

And so if you don't have data to support your claim, go out and collect some data. The best way to do that is to take little leaps of faith on people. I'm not saying to be reckless. I'm not saying to put everything on the line, but take little chances on people, give them an opportunity to show you who they are. And then the third thing I would say is to try out something I call positive gossip.

And so if you don't have data to support your claim, go out and collect some data. The best way to do that is to take little leaps of faith on people. I'm not saying to be reckless. I'm not saying to put everything on the line, but take little chances on people, give them an opportunity to show you who they are. And then the third thing I would say is to try out something I call positive gossip.

Right? We tend to think negatively. We also tend to speak negatively. In my lab, we find that people gossip three times more about selfish actions than they do about generous ones. But we can balance that out. You know, I try with my kids... Each day, it's a sort of forage for one example of goodness that I witness and then tell them about it at dinner, which I know sounds corny.

Right? We tend to think negatively. We also tend to speak negatively. In my lab, we find that people gossip three times more about selfish actions than they do about generous ones. But we can balance that out. You know, I try with my kids... Each day, it's a sort of forage for one example of goodness that I witness and then tell them about it at dinner, which I know sounds corny.

Right? We tend to think negatively. We also tend to speak negatively. In my lab, we find that people gossip three times more about selfish actions than they do about generous ones. But we can balance that out. You know, I try with my kids... Each day, it's a sort of forage for one example of goodness that I witness and then tell them about it at dinner, which I know sounds corny.

And they're nine and seven. I probably have about two years left before they completely disallow me from ever doing it again. But for now, this is my small way of trying to fight their cynicism. But it also changes... The way that I think.

And they're nine and seven. I probably have about two years left before they completely disallow me from ever doing it again. But for now, this is my small way of trying to fight their cynicism. But it also changes... The way that I think.

And they're nine and seven. I probably have about two years left before they completely disallow me from ever doing it again. But for now, this is my small way of trying to fight their cynicism. But it also changes... The way that I think.

You know, when you know you're going to say something or talk about something later, it kind of pops up an antenna in your mind and you look for it in your everyday life. And I found that because I know that I want to share something positive with my kids each day, I start to notice more positivity. And it actually isn't that hard to find at all. So those are just some starting points.

You know, when you know you're going to say something or talk about something later, it kind of pops up an antenna in your mind and you look for it in your everyday life. And I found that because I know that I want to share something positive with my kids each day, I start to notice more positivity. And it actually isn't that hard to find at all. So those are just some starting points.

You know, when you know you're going to say something or talk about something later, it kind of pops up an antenna in your mind and you look for it in your everyday life. And I found that because I know that I want to share something positive with my kids each day, I start to notice more positivity. And it actually isn't that hard to find at all. So those are just some starting points.

And I mean, again, I think that living a little bit more like a scientist can be really beautiful, not just because you learn more, but because if you're like most people, most people are better than you think. So when you pay more attention, pleasant surprises should be everywhere.

And I mean, again, I think that living a little bit more like a scientist can be really beautiful, not just because you learn more, but because if you're like most people, most people are better than you think. So when you pay more attention, pleasant surprises should be everywhere.

And I mean, again, I think that living a little bit more like a scientist can be really beautiful, not just because you learn more, but because if you're like most people, most people are better than you think. So when you pay more attention, pleasant surprises should be everywhere.

Thank you all. This has been absolutely delightful. Thank you for having me. And yeah, I hope that this can be useful to folks.

Thank you all. This has been absolutely delightful. Thank you for having me. And yeah, I hope that this can be useful to folks.

Thank you all. This has been absolutely delightful. Thank you for having me. And yeah, I hope that this can be useful to folks.