Dr. Jody Carrington

So that's the number one.

That's the number one rule.

We're neurobiologically wired for connection.

The second rule, whoever made us, threw a curveball.

And they were like, hmm.

Despite the fact that I'm going to make you neurobiologically wired for connection, the hardest thing you will ever do is look at each other.

Isn't that ridiculous?

And I think that that is, and people say this to me all the time.

Oh, what do you mean?

I'm very good at connection.

I, I look at people.

No, you don't.

You, I mean, if we were in the same room, I mean, I often do this when I give a keynote, I get people, I say them to them, you know, make eye contact right now with somebody in the room.

And it is remarkably difficult because if I'm a room, it doesn't matter.

I mean, with police officers or teachers or CEOs or Fortune 500 execs or I might think at the United Nations, I gave a talk at the United Nations and I said to the people in the room, I want you to make eye contact, look at each other.

And there's a lot of like arms are crossed.

And, you know, and sometimes there's cultural differences in eye contact.

But I got to tell you, we all use our eyes to judge safety.

We all use our eyes if we are able bodied or we were visually able to make kids on the spectrum.

People say this to me all the time.