Dr. John Deloney

This whole thing, you're working with pros.

And so if you have ever made a mistake with money, been scammed out of something, leading with that first is often a way to mitigate shame.

It's why Dave Ramsey always leads with the story of, hey, I promise you I've blown my life up financially more than any of y'all have.

It gives everybody else permission to say, oh, you had $4 million in debt.

I just had $100,000 in debt.

Right.

So if you can sit down with him and say, I've messed up before, dad, I've been buried under this stuff before this happens.

And then the next step is, and he may not do it.

Would you be willing to like these kids with their computers are so good.

Would you be willing to give me financial power of attorney?

Would you let me pay your bills for you?

And he may say no way, no how.

And I know a lot of aging dads have a lot of ego and a lot of pride still.

But I don't know another way around it, brother.

Is there...

Could you get through and say, hey, dad, I've been reading about a lot of people with pensions and Social Security getting a lot of calls from all over the country, all over the world with people trying to scam them out of their money.

Would you be willing to not make it about, hey, I heard you got scammed, but hey, I hear this is going on and they're preying on people like you.

He might say, that would never happen to me.

Who knows, man?

I'm just trying to think, Jane, I'm trying to think of ways to connect relationally here.