Dr. John Delony

Okay.

And so if your parents have made choices, they've made choices, I can be sad for them, but I can't feel guilty for them.

I'm doing the next right thing.

I haven't violated my stuff.

Now, if you start lying to them, all right, now I'm violating my core values.

I feel guilty for lying, right?

Or if I stop taking their phone calls, like I believe honor your father and mother, pick up the phone, talk to your parents for crying out loud, right?

So when you start violating your core values, then you should feel guilty.

But man, I'm just not going to, I can't carry your stuff too.

I got enough of my own, right?

I, I, a, um, I've got almost strangely competing core values.

I don't speak unless somebody asked me a question and I don't speak if I don't think I can be heard and I will intervene without invitation if I think somebody's hurting themselves or others.

And so sometimes those compete.

Yeah.

Right?

Yeah.

And in this case, you may leave with nothing tangible, but your dad may go to bed at night thinking, man, that was kind of dumb.

If you smile and you're like, you didn't go back out with your friend because they didn't text you back after he had surgery?

Surely there's more to that.

Yeah.