Dr. John Delony

You become confident.

You become somebody that you like because you're a person who does things that are likable.

You become confident after repeatedly doing a thing to the point where you have some sort of mastery over it.

Right.

And so you're trying to deeply respect a guy that you don't respect.

Because you're not doing the things that you would look at and say, that's respectable.

Like being honest with your wife.

Like demanding respect and dignity and love from the woman you pledged your life to and who pledged her life to you.

Forgiving yourself for being sick for a long time.

being really damn proud of yourself for being sober for almost a decade now.

Being willing to say, our new marriage is going to take some skills I don't have yet, so I'm willing to learn and practice.

Are you in?

I think you're worth it, man.

I think she's worth it.

I think your marriage is worth it.

And if you go through this process, if you sit down and say, our marriage we had is over.

I want to build a brand new one where we are both seen and known and celebrated and challenged, where there's laughter and joy in this home, where you have your weird stuff, I got my weird stuff, and we create a weird thing together.

Like,

I want this.

And she looks at you and says, no, I don't.