Dr. John Demartini

I've been teaching all about them for 46 years because the hierarchy of your values dictate your destiny. Tell me what they are and tell you where you're going to spontaneously go.

If you don't give yourself permission to be the most authentic you, you're going to be second at being somebody else instead of first being you. You want to find the one thing, as Gary Keller says, the one thing that absolutely inspires you. You know, Warren Buffett tap danced to work because he loves finance and wealth and, you know, numbers and stuff and financial statements.

If you don't give yourself permission to be the most authentic you, you're going to be second at being somebody else instead of first being you. You want to find the one thing, as Gary Keller says, the one thing that absolutely inspires you. You know, Warren Buffett tap danced to work because he loves finance and wealth and, you know, numbers and stuff and financial statements.

That's what he loves. That's why he's great at it. I love researching and teaching. That's why I've done well with it. If you hadn't said to John, let's be an entrepreneur and let's open up a cupcake manufacturing company and delivery service. Oh God, I would suck. I'd be going to social security looking for some sort of a handout.

That's what he loves. That's why he's great at it. I love researching and teaching. That's why I've done well with it. If you hadn't said to John, let's be an entrepreneur and let's open up a cupcake manufacturing company and delivery service. Oh God, I would suck. I'd be going to social security looking for some sort of a handout.

And you know, people say, well, that's because you're wealthy, you can afford to delegate. I said, I didn't become wealthy and then become delegating. I delegated to become wealthy and people don't get that. It doesn't cost to properly delegate. It costs to improperly delegate.

And you know, people say, well, that's because you're wealthy, you can afford to delegate. I said, I didn't become wealthy and then become delegating. I delegated to become wealthy and people don't get that. It doesn't cost to properly delegate. It costs to improperly delegate.

First of all, there's a thing called a fantasy and an objective. And people confuse those. Let me just elaborate on this because this is a great, because fear is not your enemy. Everybody talks about how bad you got to get rid of fear, overcome your fear. Fear is not your enemy. Fear is your friend.

First of all, there's a thing called a fantasy and an objective. And people confuse those. Let me just elaborate on this because this is a great, because fear is not your enemy. Everybody talks about how bad you got to get rid of fear, overcome your fear. Fear is not your enemy. Fear is your friend.

It's letting you know when you're pursuing a fantasy that's inauthentic and is trying to get you back to that which is a true objective where you embrace both sides of the pleasures and pains in the pursuit of something meaningful. It's a guide. And what we do is we go out and look for a fantasy. I'll use this example.

It's letting you know when you're pursuing a fantasy that's inauthentic and is trying to get you back to that which is a true objective where you embrace both sides of the pleasures and pains in the pursuit of something meaningful. It's a guide. And what we do is we go out and look for a fantasy. I'll use this example.

Imagine you're getting in a relationship and you meet this guy and you think, oh my God, this guy ticks off all the boxes. He's got more positives and negatives and you get infatuated with him. Now your intuition is whispering inside, you know, don't rush it, be careful, keep your eyes open. Who is this guy? Find out about it.

Imagine you're getting in a relationship and you meet this guy and you think, oh my God, this guy ticks off all the boxes. He's got more positives and negatives and you get infatuated with him. Now your intuition is whispering inside, you know, don't rush it, be careful, keep your eyes open. Who is this guy? Find out about it.

But no, your impulse of your amygdala is going, oh, I got me the guy, you know, found that worm thingy. And you've got a bit of a fantasy. You've got a fatal attraction. You know, you've got Glenn Close on your hand, as we'd say. But then you find out over the days, weeks, months, or years, they find out it wasn't what you thought, and there's now the downsides.

But no, your impulse of your amygdala is going, oh, I got me the guy, you know, found that worm thingy. And you've got a bit of a fantasy. You've got a fatal attraction. You know, you've got Glenn Close on your hand, as we'd say. But then you find out over the days, weeks, months, or years, they find out it wasn't what you thought, and there's now the downsides.

But, you know, any relationship over time will make you learn that there's things you like and things you dislike, and they're nice and balanced. And you're never going to get one without the other. But a fantasy is you're going to get an advantage over a disadvantage, a positive over negative, a pleasure out of pain, a one-sided thing.

But, you know, any relationship over time will make you learn that there's things you like and things you dislike, and they're nice and balanced. And you're never going to get one without the other. But a fantasy is you're going to get an advantage over a disadvantage, a positive over negative, a pleasure out of pain, a one-sided thing.

And the Buddha says the desire for that which is unobtainable and the desire to avoid that which is unavoidable is a source of human suffering. So people suffer when they go after fantasies and unrealistic expectations that aren't really executive functioned, not real objectives.

And the Buddha says the desire for that which is unobtainable and the desire to avoid that which is unavoidable is a source of human suffering. So people suffer when they go after fantasies and unrealistic expectations that aren't really executive functioned, not real objectives.

See, when you're living by your highest values and you're prioritizing your life, your blood glucose noction goes into the forebrain, activates the medial prefrontal cortex, the ventral portion, and creates an objective, reasonable mind that's not emotive, not impulsive and instinctual where we distort subjectively our reality. We're now seeing things as they are, not as we fantasize them to be.