Dr. John Gottman

Let's talk about your Four Horsemen framework.

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John, one of the big things from your research is that you have both found is small interactions matter the most.

Why is that so important?

Well, it's interesting you guys say that.

I've been with my partner for 10 years now and sometimes I do find myself, I don't intentionally do it, I don't think, but maybe not asking a follow-up.

Is that harmful for the relationship where my partner may be trying to make a connection and I'm missing those cues or I'm like, oh, that's great, but really he wanted maybe more?

Is there a way to counteract that?

Yeah.

Let's talk about your Four Horsemen framework and the destructive behaviors.

Can you talk us through what the framework is and what the behaviors are?

If you're in a relationship right now and you've just recognized that you are doing these behaviors, is there a way to reverse them and save the relationship?

Or if you've already gotten to the fourth stage, say, or you're doing all these things to each other, is it over?

Aww, that's so sweet.

That's so sweet.

Do you remember what it was about John that you loved so much, Julie, when you first met?

That's so good.

I want to go back to something you mentioned before, John, about the lonely epidemic that we're experiencing now.

We actually looked up some numbers and there's a significant gender gap among young adults with 63% of men aged 18 to 29 being single compared to 34% of women in the same bracket.