Dr. Jordan B. Peterson

A functional team is composed of people playing the same game and all doing it full-heartedly and voluntarily. Yeah, well, so that's an optimal solution. Even if the goal is, say, the maximization of your success, your success that comes at the expense of other people, that's not... that means that your definition of success is thoroughly flawed. That's all it means.

A functional team is composed of people playing the same game and all doing it full-heartedly and voluntarily. Yeah, well, so that's an optimal solution. Even if the goal is, say, the maximization of your success, your success that comes at the expense of other people, that's not... that means that your definition of success is thoroughly flawed. That's all it means.

That's especially true if the world isn't a zero-sum game, and I don't see any evidence that it is. There's no reason that your victory, unless you're envious and spiteful, sadistic even, there's absolutely no reason that your victory has to come at the expense of someone else.

That's especially true if the world isn't a zero-sum game, and I don't see any evidence that it is. There's no reason that your victory, unless you're envious and spiteful, sadistic even, there's absolutely no reason that your victory has to come at the expense of someone else.

Yeah, well, some of that is the attempt to obtain status, and sometimes that's predicated on the erroneous assumption that if you defeat someone, let's say in an argument, that you're right. Now, There's a certain amount of truth in that because you can evaluate ideas in the ideational space.

Yeah, well, some of that is the attempt to obtain status, and sometimes that's predicated on the erroneous assumption that if you defeat someone, let's say in an argument, that you're right. Now, There's a certain amount of truth in that because you can evaluate ideas in the ideational space.

But you can be intelligent and unwise and defeat someone wise and less articulate in an argument and still be profoundly wrong. What you should be trying to do, and this is especially true in the confines, let's say, of a marital relationship, is... you should be trying to listen.

But you can be intelligent and unwise and defeat someone wise and less articulate in an argument and still be profoundly wrong. What you should be trying to do, and this is especially true in the confines, let's say, of a marital relationship, is... you should be trying to listen.

And maybe you're trying to help your partner formulate their argument more accurately so that you both can get to the root of the problem. Oh, I love that. Oh, it's very useful. It's like, well, you might have a point. I mean, this is actually one of the things that can help men in their understanding of women. So women, on average, are more sensitive to negative emotion.

And maybe you're trying to help your partner formulate their argument more accurately so that you both can get to the root of the problem. Oh, I love that. Oh, it's very useful. It's like, well, you might have a point. I mean, this is actually one of the things that can help men in their understanding of women. So women, on average, are more sensitive to negative emotion.

So you could think of them as having a lower threshold for alarm. Okay, now what that implies is that there'll be times when the alarm bell goes off when it doesn't have to, but there'll be other times when... the alarm bell is going off to signify something that is barely detectable, but is there.

So you could think of them as having a lower threshold for alarm. Okay, now what that implies is that there'll be times when the alarm bell goes off when it doesn't have to, but there'll be other times when... the alarm bell is going off to signify something that is barely detectable, but is there.

Okay, so often what women find frustrating in speaking to men is the men, they'll start, the women will start to lay out the problem and the men will offer a solution. And the men think, well, don't you want a solution? And the women who often can't articulate this think, Well, yeah, but neither of us know what the problem is yet.

Okay, so often what women find frustrating in speaking to men is the men, they'll start, the women will start to lay out the problem and the men will offer a solution. And the men think, well, don't you want a solution? And the women who often can't articulate this think, Well, yeah, but neither of us know what the problem is yet.

And so the initial stages in much couple communication are the woman bringing up a problem, but not knowing what it is. And so making all sorts of wandering attempts to specify the problem and hoping, even implicitly, that she'll have enough space, enough scaffolding, so that that investigative process can work. come to focus on the actual problem.

And so the initial stages in much couple communication are the woman bringing up a problem, but not knowing what it is. And so making all sorts of wandering attempts to specify the problem and hoping, even implicitly, that she'll have enough space, enough scaffolding, so that that investigative process can work. come to focus on the actual problem.

Well, once you've got the problem identified, it's a lot simpler to put forward a solution and implement it. But that's the case for... Well, that's the case often for yourself if you're upset or any dialogue. It's like you want to listen long enough so you actually understand what the problem is. And that's of great benefit to you because now the cost is... If you're wrong...

Well, once you've got the problem identified, it's a lot simpler to put forward a solution and implement it. But that's the case for... Well, that's the case often for yourself if you're upset or any dialogue. It's like you want to listen long enough so you actually understand what the problem is. And that's of great benefit to you because now the cost is... If you're wrong...

you're going to have to give something up. And that's annoying and difficult and complicated and can be humiliating. And then you might say, well, why bother? And the answer to that is straightforward. It's so you don't make the same stupid mistake again. And that comes at a cost.

you're going to have to give something up. And that's annoying and difficult and complicated and can be humiliating. And then you might say, well, why bother? And the answer to that is straightforward. It's so you don't make the same stupid mistake again. And that comes at a cost.