Dr. Julia Garcia

But it's saying maybe I'm going to do, I'm going to focus on my emotional habit of risk taking and emotional risk where I continue to take risks and push myself and be courageous.

And that's something that is a risk involved to that.

But in today's day and age, a lot of people get discouraged and count themselves out when they supposedly fail.

So I would say in that specific situation, mustering the courage to take one step to remind yourself, you know, I can take another risk.

I'm worth that risk.

And then that now our thought cycles are starting to shift and rebuild.

Exactly.

But what we can realize is with that, the job, when it's out of our control, right?

We still have to live with ourselves.

We still have to be in our minds.

And we still have relationships we're going to manage.

And we want to be in a place, no matter the outcome, where we can emotionally regulate, where we can get to a place where even if we don't get the job, it doesn't take us out and we don't...

it doesn't take us to a place of where we associate that so-called failure with who we are with our sense of self with our identity and hope is really about honesty and it's being able to build that process to face whatever the honest outcome is so that no matter what happens we continue to have a way through and i you know i can share a couple of examples with this where i was really rocked and devastated in my personal life my cousin

who was like a brother to me, we grew up together.

He, at 18 years old, I was 19.

No, he was 19, I was 18 years old, and he died from an overdose on drugs.

And I couldn't change that outcome.

I was devastated.

I still will always be.

And hope doesn't change that hurt.