Dr. Julie Gottman

I've got another good example. So I remember one morning you said, I had a really disturbing dream last night. So that's a bid. And so if I said, oh, what did you dream? Tell me about it.

that's turning toward now if you said well i dreamt about my mother and it was something very upsetting now i could say hmm okay interesting i go back to reading the newspaper as opposed to saying well tell me what happened with your mother what what did you dream you know i i'm i'm interested in exploring it i can see she's disturbed by the dream i see it as an opportunity for connecting

that's turning toward now if you said well i dreamt about my mother and it was something very upsetting now i could say hmm okay interesting i go back to reading the newspaper as opposed to saying well tell me what happened with your mother what what did you dream you know i i'm i'm interested in exploring it i can see she's disturbed by the dream i see it as an opportunity for connecting

that's turning toward now if you said well i dreamt about my mother and it was something very upsetting now i could say hmm okay interesting i go back to reading the newspaper as opposed to saying well tell me what happened with your mother what what did you dream you know i i'm i'm interested in exploring it i can see she's disturbed by the dream i see it as an opportunity for connecting

rather than just perfunctorily saying, oh, oh, that's interesting. Okay, and I go back to reading.

rather than just perfunctorily saying, oh, oh, that's interesting. Okay, and I go back to reading.

rather than just perfunctorily saying, oh, oh, that's interesting. Okay, and I go back to reading.

That happened yesterday.

That happened yesterday.

That happened yesterday.