Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman

So you really appreciate that honesty.

So you really appreciate that honesty.

So you really appreciate that honesty.

So pause for a minute. Yes, doctor. Okay. So what I see is you guys slinging insults back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. There was one little piece of appreciation from you, one from you. You appreciated his honesty. You said you respected him. So how does it feel to hear appreciation versus insult? and be honest about it. How does it actually feel?

So pause for a minute. Yes, doctor. Okay. So what I see is you guys slinging insults back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. There was one little piece of appreciation from you, one from you. You appreciated his honesty. You said you respected him. So how does it feel to hear appreciation versus insult? and be honest about it. How does it actually feel?

So pause for a minute. Yes, doctor. Okay. So what I see is you guys slinging insults back and forth, back and forth, back and forth. There was one little piece of appreciation from you, one from you. You appreciated his honesty. You said you respected him. So how does it feel to hear appreciation versus insult? and be honest about it. How does it actually feel?

Do you take it in when you hear that appreciation?

Do you take it in when you hear that appreciation?

Do you take it in when you hear that appreciation?

How many followers do you guys have?

How many followers do you guys have?

How many followers do you guys have?

Stop. Don't describe him. Describe you. So you were doing a beautiful job. Perfect, perfect, perfect answer. You didn't go defensive. You didn't go counterattacking. You described you. And that is really, really, really important in terms of having a decent relationship. You don't describe the other person.

Stop. Don't describe him. Describe you. So you were doing a beautiful job. Perfect, perfect, perfect answer. You didn't go defensive. You didn't go counterattacking. You described you. And that is really, really, really important in terms of having a decent relationship. You don't describe the other person.

Stop. Don't describe him. Describe you. So you were doing a beautiful job. Perfect, perfect, perfect answer. You didn't go defensive. You didn't go counterattacking. You described you. And that is really, really, really important in terms of having a decent relationship. You don't describe the other person.

Because every time you guys do, for the most part, it turns into either criticism or contempt. And contempt is sulfuric acid for a relationship. It's when you're criticizing from on high. Being superior fails. What else is it? Not only that for contempt, but it also predicts how many infectious illnesses the listener is going to have in the next four years. The times of contempt in 15 minutes.

Because every time you guys do, for the most part, it turns into either criticism or contempt. And contempt is sulfuric acid for a relationship. It's when you're criticizing from on high. Being superior fails. What else is it? Not only that for contempt, but it also predicts how many infectious illnesses the listener is going to have in the next four years. The times of contempt in 15 minutes.

Because every time you guys do, for the most part, it turns into either criticism or contempt. And contempt is sulfuric acid for a relationship. It's when you're criticizing from on high. Being superior fails. What else is it? Not only that for contempt, but it also predicts how many infectious illnesses the listener is going to have in the next four years. The times of contempt in 15 minutes.

Yes.

Yes.