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Dr. Julie Smith

๐Ÿ‘ค Speaker
1670 total appearances

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Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

really doesn't tell you much at all because you don't feel it on a scale you don't feel a number you've have a set of feelings and um that are kind of different and sometimes deep and sometimes complex and sometimes confusing and it's our sort of um often it's when people are trying to kind of sell something around mental health that they try to make it really simple um but it's okay that it's not i think what's your advice for people who are overthinking everything

Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

really doesn't tell you much at all because you don't feel it on a scale you don't feel a number you've have a set of feelings and um that are kind of different and sometimes deep and sometimes complex and sometimes confusing and it's our sort of um often it's when people are trying to kind of sell something around mental health that they try to make it really simple um but it's okay that it's not i think what's your advice for people who are overthinking everything

Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

really doesn't tell you much at all because you don't feel it on a scale you don't feel a number you've have a set of feelings and um that are kind of different and sometimes deep and sometimes complex and sometimes confusing and it's our sort of um often it's when people are trying to kind of sell something around mental health that they try to make it really simple um but it's okay that it's not i think what's your advice for people who are overthinking everything

Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

Well, I think this is actually a really popular subject online. People, I think it's something lots of people are dealing with. And that's because I think the way that life is set up now, right? We're all expected to do... All the technology that we have, in theory, life should be really easy. It was all sold to us as if that will make life easier and you'll have more time on your hands.

Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

Well, I think this is actually a really popular subject online. People, I think it's something lots of people are dealing with. And that's because I think the way that life is set up now, right? We're all expected to do... All the technology that we have, in theory, life should be really easy. It was all sold to us as if that will make life easier and you'll have more time on your hands.

Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

Well, I think this is actually a really popular subject online. People, I think it's something lots of people are dealing with. And that's because I think the way that life is set up now, right? We're all expected to do... All the technology that we have, in theory, life should be really easy. It was all sold to us as if that will make life easier and you'll have more time on your hands.

Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

And actually, all that happened was we increased our expectation about how much we get done and how much we can handle. And so... What we're dealing with in terms of mental load is so much more than what, you know, would have. And actually, you know, the way that life is set up now, away from traditional roles where, you know, a man might go out to work and a woman would take care of the family.

Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

And actually, all that happened was we increased our expectation about how much we get done and how much we can handle. And so... What we're dealing with in terms of mental load is so much more than what, you know, would have. And actually, you know, the way that life is set up now, away from traditional roles where, you know, a man might go out to work and a woman would take care of the family.

Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

And actually, all that happened was we increased our expectation about how much we get done and how much we can handle. And so... What we're dealing with in terms of mental load is so much more than what, you know, would have. And actually, you know, the way that life is set up now, away from traditional roles where, you know, a man might go out to work and a woman would take care of the family.

Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

Those things were separated. But now both people are trying to do both. Actually, you're both taking on two full-time jobs. And so the mental load is there. And so it makes sense that people are living at a higher level of stress all the time. And when your stress level, your arousal level is higher, you're more vulnerable to overthinking.

Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

Those things were separated. But now both people are trying to do both. Actually, you're both taking on two full-time jobs. And so the mental load is there. And so it makes sense that people are living at a higher level of stress all the time. And when your stress level, your arousal level is higher, you're more vulnerable to overthinking.

Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

Those things were separated. But now both people are trying to do both. Actually, you're both taking on two full-time jobs. And so the mental load is there. And so it makes sense that people are living at a higher level of stress all the time. And when your stress level, your arousal level is higher, you're more vulnerable to overthinking.

Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

So a lot of people think I'm overthinking something because there's something wrong with me or I'm just a worrier. And I always say to people, don't label yourself as just a worrier because that gives you that sense that you can't overturn it or you can't do anything about it. which is wrong.

Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

So a lot of people think I'm overthinking something because there's something wrong with me or I'm just a worrier. And I always say to people, don't label yourself as just a worrier because that gives you that sense that you can't overturn it or you can't do anything about it. which is wrong.

Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

So a lot of people think I'm overthinking something because there's something wrong with me or I'm just a worrier. And I always say to people, don't label yourself as just a worrier because that gives you that sense that you can't overturn it or you can't do anything about it. which is wrong.

Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

You know, it's a habit as much as anything else, but it's also something that is more likely to happen when you're already stressed. So, you know, if someone came into the room with me and said, you know, I'm just overthinking everything, what shall I do? Actually, what we would look at is

Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

You know, it's a habit as much as anything else, but it's also something that is more likely to happen when you're already stressed. So, you know, if someone came into the room with me and said, you know, I'm just overthinking everything, what shall I do? Actually, what we would look at is

Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

You know, it's a habit as much as anything else, but it's also something that is more likely to happen when you're already stressed. So, you know, if someone came into the room with me and said, you know, I'm just overthinking everything, what shall I do? Actually, what we would look at is

Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

life as a whole like the full context of it's not only what are you overthinking and how can you stop thinking about it in that way it's you know what is going on with the your stress levels in general that's causing you to be at that state where you're looking for the worst case scenarios so because that's what you're set up to do right it's not a fault in your brain your brain's doing a really good job you're probably giving your brain lots of some sort of lots of signs rather that um

Modern Wisdom
#910 - Dr Julie Smith - The Science Of Emotional Intelligence & Self-Understanding

life as a whole like the full context of it's not only what are you overthinking and how can you stop thinking about it in that way it's you know what is going on with the your stress levels in general that's causing you to be at that state where you're looking for the worst case scenarios so because that's what you're set up to do right it's not a fault in your brain your brain's doing a really good job you're probably giving your brain lots of some sort of lots of signs rather that um