Dr. K

I'm nice and all these other people are assholes.

And so you get taken advantage of.

Right.

My like, oh, like I'm nice.

And when when my my work colleague needs help, I say yes.

But this other person is selfish and they say no.

And then now I'm busy on the like I'm helping them over the weekend.

And then, you know, so people will turn themselves in into an asshole because they can't control other parts of themselves.

So being an asshole is an antidote.

from being unable to say no.

Fear of disappointment, right?

So if I'm afraid of disappointing you, I'm never gonna say no.

And what I really need to do is be an asshole because that'll help me overcome my fear of disappointment.

But it doesn't actually deal with the root of the problem.

It's just like a compensatory strategy.

Does that make sense?

Yeah.

So I think there's a lot of attraction to being an asshole.

Hmm.

But usually, you know, I tend to think that on average and I could be wrong, but I can make a pretty good argument for like being a good, compassionate human being.